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My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

It is very difficult to lead somebody. Exponentially so when she answers to another.

1 comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything
Everything You Need to Know to Have an Amazing Anal Sex Experience

Everything You Need to Know to Have an Amazing Anal Sex Experience

Have no fear, anal play doesn’t have to be scary! Let’s answer some common questions about anal sex before you dive in… hehe.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Sex and Sexuality
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/15/14 As a novice submissive it can be an exciting endeavor to enter into a relationship right away before you know anything about BDSM or D/s, or even being introduced to the dynamic from someone you met online or face to face. People do it everyday. It is also one [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment?  I mean, it’s fun during scenes.  You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts.  During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone.  That’s why you’re being [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex

After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins

You scene has just ended and you both feel spent, exhausted and buzzing with good feelings. And then you look around the room, move your aching limbs and start to come out of your or play-induced fog. The room is a mess, there are toys everywhere. Both of you need aftercare. Who does what? How [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

My question is how do i learn to be great for a Master seeing that i am a man. Women have so many advantages to pleasing their Master than i do. Can you give me some pointers? Thank you. I’m not really sure what advantages that are uniquely female that don’t have a male counterpart. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex, Relationships
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
[Video Post] I Need Help Finding a Mentor

[Video Post] I Need Help Finding a Mentor

Hi LunaKM, The dominant I have been seeing the past 2 months introduced me to your site.  I was wondering how I can get a submissive mentor?  I’d like to talk about things with someone that has experience.  I am on fetlife but I don’t love posting things where everyone can see.  Can you help [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive. This is a phenomenon that I am seeing pop up around the BDSM community. Why is this becoming prevalent? What exactly is a ready-made submissive? How can we, as a submissive, not fall into the pitfall of this? This is what I am going to talk about, and, hopefully, help you to [...]

2 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Don’t I Know You From Somewhere? – Encountering People You Know at a Munch

Don’t I Know You From Somewhere? – Encountering People You Know at a Munch

Some of the first advice that I give to someone wanting to get off the computer and into the local community is to attend a munch. But at the same time I know that attending a munch is a scary proposition. You will be meeting people you don’t know that are into kinky things, and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot – Don’t Be THAT Submissive

Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot – Don’t Be THAT Submissive

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7-7-12 We are all online anymore. We don’t hand out phone numbers but readily give our email addresses and instant messenger ids. The world has shifted from a direct contact world to one behind screens. We are no longer watchful of our behavior and  manners online. I’ve also been caught [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Solo Coaching – Ask Yourself the Right Questions

Solo Coaching – Ask Yourself the Right Questions

It may not be clear to others by now but I’m pretty good at asking myself questions, and asking  questions for reflection with others. It’s how much of the topics I write come to be. I ask myself a question and then try to answer it. It’s an art that I’ve had to learn because [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 1

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 1

Hi everyone! I hope that you have had time to read the first section of the book club book, “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. If you want to read the book at a later time, I suggest you skip this book club series – as I can’t promise their won’t be “spoilers.” Then again, this [...]

31 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
The Internal and External Struggles of a Submissive

The Internal and External Struggles of a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/21/12 Submission definitely isn’t easy. No matter what direction your journey takes you will have moments where struggle and strife  challenge you to continue your submission. I’m a bit hesitant to say that it’s common to struggle as a submissive, but I do know that a lot of what I [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth

[Video Post] Too Young for BDSM – Responding to the Questions I Get from Underage Persons

At least once a month I get an email from someone that is under 18 asking very important questions about BDSM and their curious interest. They all want to know if it’s normal and if I can help them find someone to talk to about it. When I first started getting these emails I would [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community, Video Posts
How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12-17-11 We’ve all seen them on other people’s blogs. You may have even done them as a way to prompt yourself with something to write. They are fun. They are memes. Memes are the quizzes, questions, and games that seem to spread like a virus all over the blogging scene [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
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