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6 Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare Routine

6 Important Activities to Include in Your Aftercare Routine

For as important as after care is, it’s really easy to overlook or misinterpret what your aftercare routine should consist of, regardless of the scenes you’re practicing. Here are six easy activities you can add to your routine for smoother transitions after scenes.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Play and Sex
31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 24 – Scene Reports: How they can Empower Your Playtime

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 24 – Scene Reports: How they can Empower Your Playtime

A scene report is a written account of the who, what, when, where, why’s of playtime. Explore why you might want to keep track of the scenes you’ve been in through journaling.

Simply Service e-Zine: July 2005

Simply Service e-Zine: July 2005

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from June 2005. Topics include Luxury in the Bath, Aftercare, The Pitfalls of Excellence and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
What is Aftercare?

What is Aftercare?

Most often we associate this term with the time frame immediately following a ‘scene’. However, this term is equally applicable at many other points and times and many times is not associated with BDSM or D/s at all.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Recognizing Sub Rebound (Sub Drop)

Recognizing Sub Rebound (Sub Drop)

Submissive Rebound is often called sub-drop. Here are some ways you can recognize it in you.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

What Happens After You Use Your Safeword?

Certain things are expected to happen when you have said your safeword, what are they?

13 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Ask lunaKM – How Can I Manage Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship?

Ask lunaKM – How Can I Manage Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship?

A resource list to find help managing sub drop while in a Long Distance Relationship.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How Do I Ask for More Aftercare?

How Do I Ask for More Aftercare?

I don’t know how to talk about my sub drop without taking up more of his time and becoming more trouble than I’m worth….

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Safety
Sub Drop Madness – Submissive Meditation Monday

Sub Drop Madness – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’ve been there. I know how it hurts, how frustrated you feel.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
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Feeling Down After a Play Session? You Could Have Sub Drop

One weekend, my Dominant and I had a number of really great scenes. No matter what we were doing, we were deeply connected to each other and it was blissful. I can’t even remember what we did but I remember the high I felt I was soaring on no matter what else we were doing [...]

8 comments Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Play and Sex

How to Care for Bruises and More BDSM Play Recovery Tips

If there’s one topic that comes up time and again on this blog, in readers’ emails to me and online forums is how do you care for bruises and other physical and emotional reminders of play? Since 2009 when I started writing this site I’ve returned to this topic time and again with interesting and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Your first scene with your Dominant is coming up and so far they’ve been pretty foggy as far as what will happen. You’ve never been involved in BDSM before but you are excited and scared for the upcoming session. What’s going to happen? What will you expect to see and do? A scene is in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

I first published this in Society of Janus’ Bi-monthly newsletter, I thought I’d share it with you as well. From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/6/13 Exploring kink is full of exciting experiences and hormonal roller coasters. We manipulate adrenaline and endorphins to give us a pleasurable experience during play. Often without knowing how these hormones [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex

After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins

You scene has just ended and you both feel spent, exhausted and buzzing with good feelings. And then you look around the room, move your aching limbs and start to come out of your or play-induced fog. The room is a mess, there are toys everywhere. Both of you need aftercare. Who does what? How [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Sub drop. Declared among submissives as a horrible affliction and the bane of  play and relationships. We try to understand what it happening when it starts to bring us down and if we don’t know what it is can scare us into never playing again. It’s true; sub drop can be bad. For those of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/2/13 Our responsibilities as a submissive are important to be aware of. I’ve said a number of times in other articles that often novice submissives feel that once they are in a relationship they don’t have any responsibilities at all. That is far from true. Does that then mean that [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex

What is a Scene?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A very commonplace word in BDSM discussions is the word ‘scene’ but rarely do we define what that is with novices. Also, experienced people take for granted some of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

What To Do When You Encounter Limits Mid Scene

Imagine this; you are playing and happily enjoying what is going on between the two of you. As the scene continues you start to feel pushed to your limit, but you continue to play. Then, almost without warning you hit a wall and (hopefully) safeword. You’ve just hit a limit. It could be a temporary [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

In Readiness – Scene Care and Aftercare

Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
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