By lunaKM on July 26, 2010
Q: I have question. I’m a Sub newbie under a Dom’s consideration for a D/s relationship. Our relationship is not just confined to the bedroom but throughout our entire relationship. The only time we follow “norm” conduct is in the vanilla world. My Dom has made it clear that he practices domestic discipline (non abusive [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, DD, domestic discipline, Q&A, questions, vanilla relationship |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2010
Every month I ask for your anonymous questions and pleas for advice. Here are the few I got this month. First one is about introducing D/s into an existing relationship. I also cover 2 dominant relationship, just starting out and writing a letter of intent. How do I introduce my husband to the D/s or [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, expectations, experience, information, marriage, needs, negotiation, negotiations, novice, poly, questions, serving, training, Training Resume, two dominants, understanding |
By lunaKM on May 3, 2010
This is a response to the following request for advice: I have a Dom, and He loves me. But the things is, sometimes he act as my “boyfriend” then he acts as my Master. I am having trouble dealing with the fact that he wants that Master and sub relationship as my utmost and foremost [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, blind faith, challenges, defining roles, learning, novice, power exchange, questions, understanding |
By lunaKM on April 28, 2010
This month I have a few new questions for you! As always, if you have questions you’d like answered then shoot me an email and I’ll do my best to help you out! If you find that you have another piece of advice to give that I may have overlooked please leave a comment. Your [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, learning, novice, pain threshold, play, questions, safewords |
By lunaKM on March 1, 2010
As so many bloggers are known to do, I am opening up this site for your questions… even the personal ones. March is the month known in a small sphere as Question Month! If you have a question about submission, your own struggles or anything to do with BDSM this is your chance. I’ll also [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged advice, ask luna, ask me, BDSM, email, experience, question month, questions, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on February 24, 2010
Novice Q & A is for you to ask questions about things you’d like more information on, advice you are looking for or anything else. You can even ask me personal questions! My inbox is always open so you can send me questions whenever they occur. Last month I answered questions about appropriate greetings and topping [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, answers, ask me, emotions, information, novices, questions, series, understanding |
By lunaKM on January 27, 2010
Last week I asked you to talk all about BDSM Myths. Here are the submissions I received. There is some excellent thoughts here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! (Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.) pet’s journey BDSM is Love The conversation isn’t over. If you [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, BDSM, bdsm myths, carnival, myths, rt, share, submission, submission carnival, submissions, SubWise |
By lunaKM on December 23, 2009
Last week I asked you to talk about your reflections on the year and your progress with submission. Here are the submissions I received. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! (Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.) Decorating Master’s Sofa lunaKM [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, annual reflection, blogs, bottom, carnival, journey, progress, rt, share, submission, submission carnival, submissions, SubWise |
By lunaKM on December 18, 2009
I was listening to Mistress Matisse’s Guest Appearance the other day on the Savage Lovecast (Ep 163). She talks about a lot of kinky topics that callers ask Dan Savage. Somewhere near the end there was an interesting comment by Dan where he asked MM if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into [...]
Posted in Social Norms | Tagged advice, BDSM, body language, Bondage, challenges, dreams, friends, geeks, humor, implement, kinky, love, nerds, online, play, rt, sex, stress, Study |
By lunaKM on November 25, 2009
Last week I asked you to talk about your favorite scene memory. Here are the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! (Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.) pet’s journey BDSM is Love The conversation isn’t over. If [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, BDSM, carnival, favorite, journey, love, memories, rt, scene, scene memory, share, submission, submissions, submissive, SubWise |
By lunaKM on November 14, 2009
Submissive Guide.com is doing wonderfully as a start up site and I hope that each and every one of you has learned and grown in your submission since you found this site and it’s associated resources. I’m just one person hoping to provide you with something you may not be able to find somewhere else. [...]
Posted in Video Posts, Webmaster Notes | Tagged advice, ask luna, ask me, get advice, help, learned, mentor, questions, requests, Resources, rt, submission, submissive, suggestions, value |
By lunaKM on October 28, 2009
Last week I asked you to talk about the easiness of obedience to you. Here are the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! (Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.) This girl Master Stone’s Princess Slave to Don [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, blogs, carnival, obedience, rt, share, slave, submission, submission carnival, submissions, submissive, SubWise |
By lunaKM on October 26, 2009
I’ve been witness to a shocking new trend in relationships lately. Perhaps I’m old school or old fashioned but what I’m seeing in today’s society, and not just the BDSM culture, is the lack of effort in relationships. As I was raised I was taught that something worthwhile wasn’t always easy to achieve and you [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, BDSM, begging, communication, cons, disposable, disposable relationship mentality, disposable relationships, experience, family, happiness, love, marriage, online, questions, recommendations, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, spirit, spiritual, standing, understanding |
By lunaKM on September 30, 2009
Last week I asked you to share some advice that you live by or love passing on to novices because it worked so well for you. Here’s the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! Participants, repost the link list within a week and [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, blogs, carnival, journey, love, novice, novices, rt, share, submission, submission carnival, submissions, submissive, SubWise |
By lunaKM on September 28, 2009
My first ebook up for review is “How To Get The Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking For it, Getting it, and Making it Better” by Vivian of The Disciplined Feminist. I have an excerpt on this site if you’d like to read it. The author has over 23 years of spanking experience [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged advice, Aria, blogs, book, book review, books, control, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, discussion, Dom, dress, experience, fantasy, feminine, hands, help, love, needs, partners, play, real life, relationship, review, rt, series, share, spanking, spanking series, submissive, Variant Books, Vivian |
By lunaKM on September 22, 2009
This is the second SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this: Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, carnival, email, fetlife, friends, help, novice, online, online journal, readers response, rt, submission, submission carnival, submissions, SubWise, writing |
By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged acceptance, advice, bath, BDSM, bdsm play, beginning bdsm, blogs, book, communication, cons, consensual, danger, desires, Dom, dominant, information, kajira, learned, needs, negotiation, novice, novices, partners, play, relationship, Relationships, risk, rt, safe, Safety, safewords, sane, security, share, stress, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on September 5, 2009
This week’s video post is about an issue that needs more awareness. I had someone ask me for some advice through my email the other day and it went something like this: I just started exploring my kinky side and I’ve only shared it with a few other people. One person that found out started [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, advice, ask me, assistance, assistance programs, BDSM, cons, consensual, danger, Dom, domestic violence awareness, domestic violence awareness month, domestic violence project, email, family, fear, help, kinky, kinky side, leather, national domestic violence awareness month, national leather association, needs, NLA-I DVP, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, Service, share, submission, submissive, support, value |
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