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The Art of Apology: Receiving an Apology

The Art of Apology: Receiving an Apology

Saying the wrong thing after someone has apologized to you can make the person apologize feel like you’re dismissing their attempt to make things right between the pair of you.

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How To Understand The Grief Process for a Dominant Who Passed Away

How To Understand The Grief Process for a Dominant Who Passed Away

Your grief will take as long as it takes. Here are the five steps to the grief process and further support for grieving and loss.

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Recognizing Sub Rebound (Sub Drop)

Recognizing Sub Rebound (Sub Drop)

Submissive Rebound is often called sub-drop. Here are some ways you can recognize it in you.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
There’s No Size Limitation to Being Kinky

There’s No Size Limitation to Being Kinky

You do not have to be skinny to be accepted or to embrace submission. BDSM does not have a maximum size limit (or a minimum for that matter). Be you!

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth
He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

Let’s figure out how we can break down our own walls of fear, embarrassment, shyness and poor body confidence to become their favorite source of this material.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

Are you wondering why you’re wired the way you are? There’s nothing wrong with questioning, but just make sure you don’t spend all your time questioning and not living.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Relationships
Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

Always Getting in Trouble – Submissive Meditation Monday

It seems that no matter how long you’ve been doing this thing we call submission, there are times of rebellion, confusion, frustration and just not getting it right.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset
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You’re Not the Boss of Me! Empowerment Through Submission

I recently had a conversation with my boss that went something like this: Boss: “We’d like you to start doing some of your colleague’s work because you’re caught up and she’s behind.” Me: “I would be happy to help, but I see that none of these things are on my job description.” Boss: “They aren’t, [...]

3 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth

Learning About Positive Pain Processing Methods

When we learn about pain processing in relation to play and scenes with our sadist partner it’s always a good idea to understand negative processing methods. The things that make handling pain and enjoying longer sessions harder and sometimes impossible. Hopefully you’ve learned about your own negative methods in the previous video. Today we’ll talk [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Video Posts

Understanding Natural Pain Processing Techniques for Better BDSM Play

Everyone you meet has different methods for how they handle pain. Think about the last time your stubbed your toe. How did you respond to the pain? Did you jump up and down? Curse? Cry? Hold your breath? Walk it off? How you handle pain is a result of nature and nurture. Perhaps as you [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Video Posts
7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

This is a guest post by Shahjahani a personal friend and Hospice Nurse. “Grief is a journey, not something you get over” Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Grief can be experienced for many reasons, not just the loss of a loved one. Grief is not just related to the loss of a person’s physical presence. Grief [...]

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

Learning Better Pain Processing Through Visualization

This essay was first written and published in the Society of Janus newsletter “Growing Pains.” I hope you enjoy! from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/4/13 Pushing boundaries in pain tolerance is a common request for submissives of all flavors. As a masochist I enjoy pain for the sake of pain. I don’t always want to [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Becoming Comfortable with My Submissive Role

Although many submissive individuals would say that they were born submissive personalities, there are some who found themselves surprised by how much they enjoyed being the submissive partner in their relationships. By nature, I am not a submissive person. I was taught from a very early age to have my own opinions and to assert [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Several years ago, I was reading a book. In the book, one of the characters had a tattoo that read “quod nutrit me destruit me”. After reading a bit further, the translation of the quote was given, “that which nourishes me also destroys me”. Long after finishing the book, I was unable to forget that [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-7-12 My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

Lessons in Submissive Speech 4: How to Apologize

The proper apology is an art, it really is. But before we put that together I’d like to cover the reason for apologizing in the first place. Apologizing is not admitting your intentional disobedience. It’s not about accepting the blame either. It is purely about acknowledging that you have displeased your Dominant in some way; [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

This post is written by Rick’s Fucktoy. It was first posted on Sensual Service, which I closed when I opened Submissive Guide. 24/7. All day, every day. Is it possible to live any lifestyle to that degree? More to the point, is it possible to live *this* lifestyle that I’ve chosen for myself on a 24/7 [...]

19 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
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