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Spanking

Erotic spanking is the practice of spanking another person for the sexual gratification of either or both parties. Erotic spanking is generally regarded as a form of BDSM activity (sadomasochism in particular), although many spanking devotees do not regard it as such. Spanking can be carried out with the bare hands, gloves, a ruler, hairbrush, paddle, switch,cane, crop, birch, martinet or whip; it is sometimes combined with sexual roleplaying and/or ageplay. It is often delivered on the bare buttocks, and sometimes the spankee is fully nude and/or in bondage, for additional humiliation and arousal.

Practice

Implements

A spanking may be carried out with the use of a bare or gloved hand, or with any of a variety of implements, including a paddle, strap, hairbrush, feather duster or belt.Other popular tools are canes, riding crops, whips, switches, birches, sneakers, rolled-up newspapers, rulers or martinet.

Costume

spank skirt (also called a spanking skirt) has an additional opening in back designed to expose the buttocks. While the name spank skirt suggests that the wearer could be spanked “bare bottom” without removing or repositioning the skirt, this item may be worn for reasons other than spanking (for instance, exposure).

Considered fetish wear, spank skirts are typically tight-fitting and made of fetishistic materials (such as leather, PVC or latex).

Regardless of the gender of the wearer, spank skirts are usually considered female attire. The male gender role equivalent might be motorcycle chaps.

Other garments associated with spanking as well as humiliation are ruffled or rhumba panties, women’s panties with rows of ruffles on the rear panel or outside.

Apparatus

spanking bench or spanking horse is a piece of furniture used to position a spankee on, with or without restraints. They come in many sizes and styles, the most popular of which is similar to a sawhorse with a padded top and rings for restraints.

The 19th-century British dominatrix Mrs Theresa Berkley became famous for her invention of the Berkley Horse, a similar form of BDSM apparatus.

Those who are interested in the practice giving or receiving erotic spankings are sometimes referred to spankophiles. Examples include the poet Algernon Swinburne (as implied repeatedly in his poetry) and the philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau, as detailed in his autobiography Confessions:

… Miss Lambercier… exerted a mother’s authority, even to inflicting on us… the punishment of infants… Who would believe this childish discipline, received at eight years old, from the hands of a woman of thirty, should influence my propensities, my desires, my passions, for the rest of my life… To fall at the feet of an imperious mistress, obey her mandates, or implore pardon, were for me the most exquisite enjoyments, and the more my blood was inflamed by the efforts of a lively imagination the more I acquired the appearance of a whining lover.”

Positions for spanking

Positions for spanking include:

  • over the knees (OTK) or across the lap
  • lying face down on a bed
  • hands on knees
  • diaper position (genital exposure to enhance humiliation)
  • wooden horse
  • birching block
  • bent under the arm of the spanker
  • bent over touching toes.

Those interested in giving or receiving erotic spankings are sometimes known as spankophiles or spankos. Examples include the poet Algernon Swinburne and the philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau.

Many people with a sexual interest in spanking draw on historical corporal punishment techniques used in homes, schools, courts or prisons. However they are generally careful to distinguish their consensual sexual activities from their views of child-rearing, education and public policy. Punishment spankings and erotic spankings are sometimes hard to separate, see domestic discipline.

For straight men who like to be spanked, their spanking fetish is usually accompanied by a leg/feet and nylon fetish as well. Men usually like the women to wear a skirt, high heels and tights when they spank.

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