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Kink is a term used to refer to unconventional sexual practices such as bondage, domination and submission, and sadomasochism (known collectively as BDSM), and sexual fetishism. The term derives from the idea of a “bend” (cf. a “kink”) in one’s sexual behaviour, to contrast such behaviour with “straight” or “narrow” sexual mores and proclivities.

Someone who is “into kink” is also referred to as being kinky. A kinkster is a friendly term used in the BDSM community to refer to someone else who also participates in BDSM activities. The Internet has had a big impact on bringing together kink-friendly communities and allowing contact between them, and as this has happened the term kink is gradually changing through usage to mean those of an unconventional lifestyle who are accepting of others of unconventional lifestyles including BDSM, gay and lesbian, and pagans.

Vanilla sex” is a term that refers to standard or normal sex. Different cultures, subcultures, and individuals have different ideas about what constitutes normal sex.

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3 responses to “Kink”

  1. James

    I am a Dom married to a vanilla,,Even yhoe we do not have sex anymore,I still love her but I must have control when I make love. I have found subs (Married and single) Who alsounderstand the lifestyle and I give them what the cannot get at home or elsewhere, My question Is do you consider this cheating. My wife Is very happy and I make It a point not to let It Interfere with our Marriage

  2. James

    Having been a Dom/Masterfor about 12 yars now and had a few subs/Slaves I think It Is very Important to care and be attentive to your sub/slave and to allways keep I

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