Stress in Play with Predicament Bondage

Has your Dom/me ever tied you in a position where if you move one way this part of your body gets stressed or pulled, and if you move another way, that part of your body gets tugged or pinched? If so, then you have experienced predicament bondage!
Predicament bondage can be simple or complex and playful [...]

What I Think about Underage Experimentation and Submission

Another question from March Question Month comes from Coco:
I am curious about what your thoughts on those who admit to participating underage is?
I have been referred to as “vanilla” for being uncomfortable with those who identify/have identified as submissives and slaves at/from a very young age. I can understand experimenting at a [...]

Are You Cheating on Your Dominant With Your Ex Dominant’s Memory?

This is a question tammy asked for March Question Month:
I have had a few Doms and i am in a relationship where I live with one.I didnt think I could find someone that makes me this happy but I did. The problem is I keep thinking about my first Dom that introduced me [...]

SubWise #8: Serving in Public – Participation Request

Its time for SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this:

Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use [...]

Teach Yourself Belly Dancing Using YouTube

As a part of my work to improve myself and make my submission fun and exciting always I am constantly searching for things I can add to my service that my Owner would love to see or have me do.
One of these is today’s focus. Belly Dancing. I’m certain that pole dancing, burlesque and stripping [...]

A Collar by Any Other Name…

This month is March Question Month, and Trinity asked:
Does one know how to obtain collars that do not look like collars..so one can be worn at all time with out so called vanilla’s asking about it…?
When people think of collars, they usually picture something an animal would wear.  Supple leather with a big buckle, or [...]

Diffuse Extreme Mood Swings Before They Get You In Trouble

For March Question Month Cilla Noir asks:
How do you handle your serious mood swings or when something just “sets you off”?
When you go from one end of the spectrum to another – sometimes justified, sometimes not.
Normally, when i was on my own, i would just throw a fit.
Being back in a D/s [...]

Submissive Chat Night 3/9/10 8PM CST – Free Chat

It’s time again for another chat night here at Submissive Guide. I’d welcome everyone to come on in Tuesday 3/9 for a bit of conversation. The topic is going to be free chat. Anything and everything can be discussed. Please come with questions or a curiosity about Dominant/submissive relationships.
Info
When: 3/9/10 8 PM CDT – 9:30 [...]

Review: The Submissive Activity Book

In January I had a poll in the sidebar asking readers like you what books you’d like to see me review for Submissive Guide. The overwhelming response was that you wanted me to review The Submissive Activity Book: Building Blocks To Better Service by Shannon Reilly. I received the 184 page book without expectations of [...]

March is Question Month

As so many bloggers are known to do, I am opening up this site for your questions… even the personal ones. March is the month known in a small sphere as Question Month!
If you have a question about submission, your own struggles or anything to do with BDSM this is your chance. I’ll also take [...]

Regaining Submissive Mind-Space Through Ritual

Many submissives have jobs where they are managers, business owners, or in charge in some way or another. Sometimes it can be difficult to re-enter your submissive head-space at the end of a busy work day. A sub can use rituals in order to help her achieve the right mind-apace, leaving the outside world behind [...]

Check out e[lust] #8

Welcome to e[lust] – your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #9? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s [...]

Novice Q&A – February Edition

Novice Q & A is for you to ask questions about things you’d like more information on, advice you are looking for or anything else. You can even ask me personal questions! My inbox is always open so you can send me questions whenever they occur. Last month I answered questions about appropriate greetings and topping [...]

Introducing…mrs. K

Greetings fellow Submissive Guide readers!
I find it very difficult to write an introductory passage about myself. I’ve been a member of FetLife for a year and have yet to even start writing the “About Me” section of my profile. With that said, I guess it makes sense to start at the beginning. [...]

SubWise #7 – Romance

Last week I asked you to talk all about romance in D/s relationships. Here are the submissions I received. There is some excellent thoughts here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments!
(Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.)
pet’s journey
thisgirl’s weblog
The conversation isn’t over. If you would like to [...]

When it is Okay to Top From the Bottom

Topping from the bottom has been given a bad wrap. It’s considered by many to be a faux paux for any submissive. Online communities shun and shame many people who even ask about the subject and want to know if what they did was considered wrong. Too many people tell these people that yes it [...]

CANCELLED! Submissive Chat Night 2/23/10 8PM CDT – Oral/Genital Service

Something has come up and I will be unable to attend. Please feel free to use the room if you’d like. It’s always open.
–luna
It’s time again for another chat night here at Submissive Guide. I’d welcome everyone to come on in Tuesday 2/23 for a bit of conversation. The topic is going to be Oral/Genital [...]

Make-up Application Tips, Tricks and Tutorials

Almost every lady loves to wear make-up. I’m no different, but it’s taken a long time for me to feel confident that I don’t look like a clown when I walk out the door. I’ve started teaching myself a more professional make-up application process and in that I’ve found a lot of excellent resources online [...]

Introducing nan {SL}

I would like to introduce myself to readers of The Submissive Guide. My name is nan, and I am submissive to SirLancelot. On FetLife I am Naya-girl. (“Naya” is what Master and I call the single tail whip that I am so very fond of). Together SirLancelot and I run a munch at a lovely [...]

First Playtime Jitters and How to Arrive Prepared

Every submissive goes though it. You may be going through it now. Those butterflies in your stomach because you’ve just set a date for your first play session. Things are still so new and exciting. You don’t know what to expect or how you will react to things. It’s all so strange and foreign feeling. [...]