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lunaKM

lunaKM
lunaKM has been a full-time slave in an M/s relationship for over 10 years. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on lunaKM.me, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

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Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky [...]

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How to Turn BDSM Fantasy Into Reality – Taking What You’ve Read or Seen Into Your Bedroom

It’s no secret that 50 Shades of Gray is a huge media success. It’s brought about fame for the author and attracted many people to the theaters to see the film adaptation. But it has also brought curious people to this site and many like it for answers and exploration. Many people first get introduced [...]

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[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

Welcome to a mini-series here on the channel that I’m going to call Define This! In this series you are welcome to ask me to define terms found in the BDSM and D/s lexicon that you don’t know and I will make a brief video defining it for you. Sounds simple enough, right?  I want [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Video Posts
An Open Letter to Everyone Who Wants to Know What a D/s Relationship is Supposed to Look Like

An Open Letter to Everyone Who Wants to Know What a D/s Relationship is Supposed to Look Like

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/29/16 A D/s (or M/s) relationship, for most of you reading this, you either have one or want one. For those of you who have never been in a D/s relationship before it comes as no shock that you want to know what it’s like and what to expect from [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Simply Service e-Zine: November 2005

Simply Service e-Zine: November 2005

We’re back again this month with another look back at a resource from the past.  Remember, much of the content of these newsletters is still relevant today so take some time to read it! From the newsletter’s description; Current contributors are all slave or submissive identified, and in real time relationships where obedience and service are necessary, valued skills, [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Self-Esteem and Unsolicited Advice – Submissive Meditation Monday

Self-Esteem and Unsolicited Advice – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. How’s your self-esteem? Do you feel [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Ask lunaKM – What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Ask lunaKM – What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Luna, what is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? I realize everyone is different, but when a sub is not being financially supported and is doing household care and management, handling the everyday paperwork of bill paying, handling home repair calls, etc.; assuming her Dom is loving, caring, what else [...]

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[Freebie] Entering the BDSM and D/s Community

[Freebie] Entering the BDSM and D/s Community

Kayla Lords had an excellent series on Submissive Guide awhile ago about Entering the BDSM and D/s communities and I wanted to put it together for you all in one place. Download it today!

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Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Do You Like Freebies? Support Submissive Guide on Patreon and Be Rewarded!

Support me on Patreon! It’s no secret that keeping this site going costs money and while my passion for educating and supporting the BDSM community have not wavered, the income needed to continue to grow this site is on the rise. I have so many hopes and dreams and goals for Submissive Guide and I [...]

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Every Good Conversation Starts with Good Listening

Every Good Conversation Starts with Good Listening

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/24/16 “The biggest communication problem is we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply.” Submissive Guide was started not to just share what I know, it is also, at least for me, a way to continue to learn by talking out my struggles and answering the questions presented to [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

Submissive Guide Takes a Holiday

From everyone here at Submissive Guide, including myself, my contributor team, KnyghtMare, my Master and the guy behind the site and server I want to wish you a very happy holidays. With every holiday, the site takes a break and I wanted to let you know that while we spend time with friends and family, [...]

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Simply Service e-Zine from November 2005

Simply Service e-Zine from November 2005

Today’s look back on an amazing e-zine is from November 2005. While this newsletter is no longer being produced, much of the content is still relevant so download it today and check it out! Here’s what’s in this issue: November 2005 Download Now! My Journey by slavedebbie Community Unity by Master Kalan Declutter 101 by Tante [...]

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The Submissive Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

The Submissive Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

I’m devoting this Monday to meditation, reflection, and devotion to submission. I hope to select topics that will get you thinking differently about some part of your life or submission and then just maybe grow a little bit further. If you have ideas for topics that might work for a Meditation Monday, please email me. My personal submission has been in [...]

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Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-10-16 The topic for this article came to me from a reader survey I did over a year ago where I asked you what was most pressing to your at that moment and this question, “must I always wait for my Dom to tell me what to do?” came up. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Time’s Almost Up! Get Your Submissive’s Advent Calendar Before They Are Gone!

Time’s Almost Up! Get Your Submissive’s Advent Calendar Before They Are Gone!

In just 3 days the Submissive’s Advent Calendar will no longer be available. Don’t miss your chance to enjoy peace and joy through submission this holiday season with 24 days of activities. It’s good for single and collared submissives of all types. Something this special can’t last forever. Since this is a holiday ebook, I’m [...]

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[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

[Freebie] Behind Closed Doors: BDSM with Kids in the Home

This month’s free report is a compilation of essays from Submissive Guide about parenting and BDSM, children in the home and navigating quiet play and so many other concerns about being parents and also in a D/s relationship. I hope you enjoy it. Download Now!

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Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8-13-16 We’ve all probably uttered this phrase a time or two when having a heated conversation with a loved one, “you’re becoming defensive.” From the time we are born, we learn defensive mechanisms that are meant to protect us from pain and trauma. A child’s first defense is to cry, [...]

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9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

9 Books on BDSM and D/s I’ve Read More Than Once (They’re THAT Good!)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/9/16 When I started exploring BDSM and D/s relationships in 2003 there weren’t a lot of resources available. Those that were available were considered bibles of BDSM, essential reading for those who wanted books to read. (Which seems self-serving since they were the only resources, of  course people suggested reading [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Reviews
Limited Time Offer – Pick up The Submissive Advent Calendar NOW!

Limited Time Offer – Pick up The Submissive Advent Calendar NOW!

You’ve been asking for this since the first series on the blog 4 years ago and now I’m able to say that I’m proud to release the Submissive Advent Calendar as an ebook! I’ve worked with kallista to make a beautiful ebook full of suggestions to make your holiday season just a bit more focused [...]

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[Freebie] Writing a D/s Contract

[Freebie] Writing a D/s Contract

Today I’m sharing with you all the information I know about D/s contracts, from the whys and hows to the minute details of what happens once it’s signed. I also include an example contract for you to customize your own. Download it Now!

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
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