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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 7 of 7) – In Closing

The last part of Ambrosio’s series on Leather and Etiquette. This article contains further reading, links, and resources you can use to improve your own knowledge!

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) – A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general “vanilla” etiquette are covered.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 5 of 7) – Flagging, Symbols, and Rituals

In this part of Ambrosio’s series, you learn all about Flagging, the Hanky code and Symbols or Rituals you can use to identify others interested in similar kinks and power exchange styles.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

In part 4 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, it’s play parties! Come read a set of sample party rules and three different types of parties you may encounter in your local BDSM community.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) – Cruising With Class

Ambrosio covers “cruising” in part 6 of this series on Leather protocol and etiquette. Take head of the warnings and tips for those casual experiences.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 2 of 7) – More Specific Guidelines

In this part of Ambrosio’s series on Leather protocol and etiquette; appropriate behavior at munches and other gatherings where socializing happens as well as how to handle trolls and other inappropriate behavior.

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Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

Exposed! 5 Myths of BDSM You Should Know

It’s time to debunk the most common myths surrounding BDSM, clearing up all the shades of gray once and for all! Here we go—no safety word needed!

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.

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When Journaling Gets Hard – How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

When Journaling Gets Hard – How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

This is a personal account of what can happen when journalling goes wrong. In Elle’s case, it was when she became depressed. It’s about how to recognize that there is a problem, and what you and your dominant might do to overcome it.

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Hitting the Wall During Play – Limit’s Edge

What does it mean to hit the wall? Let’s explore how deep the rabbit hole goes and become more aware of our own limits during play.

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Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

The fusing of BDSM and tantric massage has taken sexual energy to greater heights, and for many, it’s an experience that’s more satisfying than anything encountered before.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Altered Mental States

Altered Mental States

The human mind is vulnerable to suggestion. Within the BDSM community, there is a strong underlying foundation for voluntarily focused enthrallment.

4 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Mindset, Play and Sex
Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

Born Again into Kink: Discovering Kink at Middle Age

What’s it like to discover BDSM later in life?

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
On Multiple Dominants

On Multiple Dominants

There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. What is less visible but equally common is the identical phenomenon within submissives.

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Submissive Myths: Submission is a Result of Childhood Abuse

Submissive Myths: Submission is a Result of Childhood Abuse

If a human being at some point in their childhood becomes the focus of physical and/or sexual abuse does this then turn them into a submissive at some later point in their lives?

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Beyond Limits: The Illusion of Safety

Beyond Limits: The Illusion of Safety

The only true limitations are those fundamental values that you carry at your core. The inviolate lines that you will not cross for to do so you believe would compromise who you believe yourself to be. That final line in the sand.

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Submissive vs. Slave

Submissive vs. Slave

Mistress Steel tackles the submissive vs slave debate. Core differences and misconceptions are revealed.

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Some Issues with Consensuality

Some Issues with Consensuality

As in most things, the meaning of consent is far from simple.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

About Punishment

Punishment is one of those areas which is not what it seems. Before you can develop tools or methods of punishment you have to look at the concepts behind the issue itself.

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What is Aftercare?

What is Aftercare?

Most often we associate this term with the time frame immediately following a ‘scene’. However, this term is equally applicable at many other points and times and many times is not associated with BDSM or D/s at all.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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