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5 responses to “What To Do When You’re Unhappy in Your D/s Relationship”

  1. Becky

    Thank you! I’m still new to all of this, and this hit home so much for me. It was as if you were talking directly to me!

  2. Nic

    Thank you! Thank you for being here !

  3. Gbg

    This article couldn’t have come at a better time for me. Unhappy is a word to describe my current situation but hopeless is even better. I’m so confused and upset. I recent met and immediately mutually connected with a man who I’ve entered into a D/s relationship but also it was taking on traits of a bg/gf relationship. I’m ecstatic about the concept and adore my Dom. He has given me every indication that he’s happy we’ve met and cares about me. It’s only been about 8 weeks but we just connected so fast to our delight. My dilemma : My Dom/Daddy’s ex sub showed up suddenly about 2 weeks ago saying she wanted him back, that she was ready to “give him what he always wanted/needed” ( not sure what that was). She was his sub for a long time and they have a special bond according to my Daddy. He said “something happened” the night she was with him, but didn’t go into detail, but I can guess. He said it put him in turmoil and confusion and hadn’t been the same since with me. We hadn’t seen each other or really talked since that night but he came over this week before leaving for 3 day business trip to explain and apologize. When he left, there was no real definitive resolution, as he said he wanted to take the time he was away to “gain clarity”. She’s thrown him into an emotional tailspin and I fear I will lose him. Before this everything was perfect, my Daddy was happy and kept telling me how unexpected but wonderful that we’d met that I was “refreshing” compared to his past relationships. Now, he’s pulled away to “process what’s going on and think and gain clarity”. My heart is broken, and I feel powerless. I miss him so much, I hate not talking and texting each day, and knowing I’m his bg. I’ve told him very honestly and emotionally how sad I am and how I miss him so and am frustrated and hurt by this unexpected twist. Communication has been next to nothing since he left Monday and I feel the more I try to communicate or text how sad I am without him the more I’ll push him away. I don’t know what to think of all this or how to handle it. Please help. Thank you.

  4. Iva

    I’m currently unhappy in my long distance D/s relationship. We have never met up close and personal before. All these while we have been playing via Skype and WhatsApp video call. We have had our ups and downs no thanks to the long distance and time difference. He recently admitted that he had some fuck buddies etc.. all the while we were together. Though I do understand it was all meaningless f*** I’m not sure how to feel about that when he informed me that he will be going on a holiday with a female friend and there may be sex involved. And at this point I think I’ve come to the conclusion that we do not fit. And it’s best that we stop this D/s. He told me that since I’m not there with him he still has physical needs to fulfill. I feel so inadequate. We have communicated a lot over the weeks and discussed many things but I still it’s pointless to carry on. Obviously my version of a D/s relationship differs from his .

  5. Jenn

    My long distance Dom told me not to feel abandoned if he doesn’t text me back right away. Sometimes it’s 3 days, and I initiate the next text. I feel like he’s tired of me, and I’m not sure what to say to him. It’s becoming a regular thing that we talk less frequently. However, when we do talk it lasts for hours. I feel very bad because I’m so attached. He has a lot more goung on than he used to. What should I say?

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