Hi  Luna.  Yes I have a question.... I never know where I stand with this man. He talks about the future when we are together. He brings it up, he speaks what we will be doing etc. I don't say too much. I want this very badly, but he calls all the shots. This is fine with me. Then no communication for days. We live 200 miles apart. Just high one minute and low the next. I keep wondering if I should move on or wait it out some more.......... Any suggestions?

Communication is the only way we have to know what someone else is thinking and their intentions. It's probably why I talk about successful communication so much on this site. I know you say that you don't say much and that is a problem. If you are really a part of this relationship, long distance or not, you need to have a voice. If you let him call all the shots, especially in the early stages of a relationship, then he could assume that you are just going to wait on his pleasure whenever he has an inkling. Sure, it's possible that's not the case, but the fact that you told me he doesn't stay in contact with you gives me that impression.

It's quite clear you aren't happy with this situation and the only way you can correct it is if you take responsibility for your side of the relationship. Being submissive does not mean you make no decisions at all. It does mean you take some personal responsibility to make sure your needs and desires are being met - in this case your need for more consistent communication.

The importance of communication really does help you decide if you should wait it out or move on. If you feel he should be keeping in contact more often and you've raised that concern with him but he doesn't change then maybe he isn't the right guy for you to spend your time with. The key here is that you learn to use your voice. He may be the Dom but you are still trying to be in a relationship which means that your wants and needs are just as important as serving his.

Is there a reason you haven't met him yet? Two hundred miles is a driveable distance in a single day and you could learn more about him face to face. Should you wait or move on? That's up to you, but I think I'd try to correct the issues with communication by speaking up about it first and see what comes out of it.