I'm VERY new to this so please keep that in mind.  I was approached recently about becoming a submissive.  I'm interested and intrigued.  I'm not a 100% sure I would be a good one but I'm in the process of researching, learning and figuring it out.  Having said all that I need to know if what my prospective Master asked me to do is an acceptable first request in the D/s world. I have not yet accepted and he gave me what I am guessing is a test to see if I'm seriously considering being a sub. He asked me to call a phone number, give my first name, and then say "so and so" (name removed) is my Master.

Is this common in the D/s world?  I have no idea who I'm calling and it makes me nervous.  Is it a club I'm joining?  Is it just a friend of his to prove I'm serious?  Is it some type of scam?  I'm not sure and no explanation was given.  Only, once I receive the phone number I'll have 10 minutes to call it.  I realize I'll be tested to prove my submission is serious but I'm not sure if this a common test among the D/s world. Any information on this would be greatly appreciated!

Hi there novice,

Challenges like this make me cringe. They really have nothing to do with submission in the context of a relationship and more like a prove you are naïve and willing to do anything I ask you to (including things that could jeopardize your livelihood). This is a common practice for people who are online only or that just like to play sex games. Serious relationships don't go this direction. So keep that in mind.

Getting to the meat of it, is it common to be asked to do things that may make you uncomfortable? Yes, but not in the beginning stages of a relationship where you hardly know each other let alone had any negotiations or time to be comfortable talking to one another. This particular request though seems insanely silly and I personally wouldn't do it. Who knows what the number is. It could be anyone on the other end of the line. And how does it really prove you are a submissive looking for a D/s relationship? Just because you are willing to comply and actually make a phone call? Yes you are new and I realize you don't know what to expect from a Dominant, but using common sense is a good thing to learn.

Now, since you are new I highly recommend you don't jump right into a relationship with the first person that offers you their attention. Learn about BDSM and submission on your own terms, in your own time. That way you can learn how to vet someone and know when someone is being an immature game player or a seriously interested person. You might want to sign up for one or both of my free ecourses for starting out in BDSM and submission.

Most importantly, for now, don't do anything you are uncomfortable doing. You'll learn your limits in time.