My Dom and I are usually in constant communication. We are a relatively new couple and new to the lifestyle. The last two months have been amazing. When I say two calls a day and at least 100 texts a day. Last night he went to a friend's house and I had no communication with him for 14hrs. It was awful. My stomach hurt, I had the shakes, I cried. It was sub drop/frenzy I am sure. However, it has led me to question everything. I don't think it was very responsible of him, and I am disappointed in him. Am I being oversensitive?
Hi there,
New relationship energy and sub frenzy are very powerful, emotional times in our lives. It's hard to see ourselves as greedy and needy when what we feel is good and happy and bubbly. But I think you may be expecting a bit too much from a new relationship. Fourteen hours are really not that long. And if he's not allowed to have time with his friends without you constantly in his phone notifications then maybe you should consider how you'd feel if you wanted a girl's night out but had to constantly talk to him while you were trying to enjoy the evening.
Not responsible of him? You knew he was with friends, at night. Most people go out for drinks or fun, then actually need to sleep. Honestly, that seems like a normal time period to be out of contact. What do you expect of him, realistically?
A relationship doesn't have to be the ONLY thing in his life, he has friends and I'm assuming work and daily grind as well. If you expect him to respond to your every single text (and over 100 a day is insane, in my opinion) then maybe you should re-evaluate what you expect from a relationship. It's just not realistic to expect someone to be available every single moment you want to chit-chat.
Learn how to process your feelings with sub drop and frenzy. I have some great articles on both things so you can understand your responses.
