Dear lunaKM,

Is there a beginner's guide I can read to tell me what I am supposed to d and what to expect with this? I met a Daddy Dom and he wants me to be his Daddy's Girl. But I would like to know more about this life before I move to be with him, Any help is greatly appreciated. I have tried researching it and some stories are horrifying, I just want to make sure I know the real deal before I turn ver my ownership papers to him. -- new little girl

Dear new little girl,

There are a lot of books on BDSM that can help you learn more about BDSM and D/s relationships, however, what you and your Dom can expect from this is unique to your relationship. In general terms, you can expect him to be in charge and you to submit. Check out my recommended reading list and all the reviews on the site of books that might interest you and help you learn more about D/s.

Beyond that, it requires a lot of talking about your wants and needs and negotiating what you want the relationship to look like. If you don't know your wants and needs I suggest you head over to the ebooks section of the site and pick up my Wants and Needs guide. It is set to pay what you like so if you are tight on funds that one is free.

Also, the free e-courses I have on this site are helpful for novices as well. You can find them on the e-courses page. I've had a lot of positive praise on the Beginning BDSM  and Starting Out courses.

There will always be horror stories, but there are a lot of good endings too. The only way you know you have the real deal is if you take the time to learn who they are as a person, learn about who you want to serve and who you are going to be in the relationship.  Take your time and don't move forward until you are ready and comfortable with how things are progressing. It's your life and your relationship, make sure you help make it what you want of it.

--lunaKM