Hi luna can you give me the proper way to give a gift to my mistress it is at a public party and she knows what it is.

I think you are over thinking things a bit. Power exchange relationships don't change every single thing about living or interacting with people. Gift giving, unless she specifies a special way to do it, is the same way you've always given gifts. For anything you do, you should always default to what your Dominant wishes of you and if there are no clear rules, and they don't express any, use common courtesy and respect as your guide.

 

I don't remember the name of the website but I took a test online that says I'm submissive. My boyfriend also tested submissive. What does that mean?

Ok, so let me get this straight. Some anonymous test that anyone can make tells you that you both are submissive and you are going to believe it? Were you the type to take the quizzes in Cosmopolitan as truth?

Seriously, walk away from those silly online tests and talk to one another. Ask the important questions about what you two would be interested in trying together. Explore your fantasies and read about things that interest you. Don't rely on these fake tests to direct your sexual lives. If you do need help in discovering your common interests, you might try a BDSM checklist. Go through it together and learn more about each other that way. It's far more reliable for real results you can do something with.

 

For the past few years I've realised that I have submissive tendencies. This has come about through ex boyfriends and some light play. At the beginning of the year I began talking to a Dom online and via text messages. We've built up a relationship, based on friendship, he knows I am new to it all, he's been very kind in answering all of my (sometimes ridiculous) questions and now we are ready to meet in a bar and then begin my training. My question to you is around safety and what to expect from our first meeting and if there is anything I can do to prepare for my first session? Whilst we have spoken about it, I would be grateful for a second opinion.

Safety is something I write about a lot. I'd like to direct you to a couple of essays on this site about first meeting safety and expectations. Please use the comments section to continue the conversation and ask your questions. We are a great community!