Hello Luna,

Just have been wondering something lately and I was hoping you could help out. Is it possible to be someone's submissive if there's one thing you just cannot give up control over? I am an incredibly picky eater and it's actually my biggest fear in life to try new foods. I know it's ridiculous but if I'm forced to try something new it makes it worse. I know I need to work on, just hoping to do it on my own. So can I be my Master's girl even if I can't let go about food? I so hope so.

It can be a scary thing entering into a D/s relationship when you don't know how much control they are going to expect or if you'll be able to keep some things that you prefer just the way they are. The beauty of a power exchange relationship, and any relationship, in fact, is that you get to know someone, what they expect and desire from a partner and hopefully you have similar expectations and desires. Then unlike many mainstream relationships, you'll have a period of negotiations.

Negotiations are where you will lay out what you want and need as far as the relationship. You will present them with your limits and your known triggers and they will do the same for you. This is the perfect opportunity for you to say that you don't want your food choices under their control. You can be as detailed or broad sweeping with this limit as you'd like. If he agrees to your terms then you don't have to worry about them messing with your food choices. If he doesn't agree, then he'd better have a good, convincing reason and you would have to agree to it to continue the negotiations.

I hope this helps you. Submissives can have limits and have them respected. It's not an all or nothing sort of relationship for many people. Just make sure you find someone who will respect your limits and you will find happiness.