Dear Luna, What I find scary is due to a large series of abuse throughout my life, including very recently I felt it important to ask about personal safety. You see, going to munches may be scary, is still a safe area. However, if you're going to be the s in a D/s, you need to find someone you trust. Ending up in a situation where you are not safe, do not have your limits respected or are with someone who is really just out to hurt people. I was wondering about warning signs for dangers to avoid?
Good question! I am one of the first to recommend that novices get out from behind the keyboard and go to a munch or other support group. Not because I think they are perfectly safe, but because so many assumptions of this lifestyle or kink, in general, are formed incorrectly due to the misuse and abuse of online situations.
You can experience similar problems in an online relationship that you can in a face to face one - although face to face ones tend to have more to them. You can still be abused, forced against your limits, manipulated and cajoled into a false sense of security.
My number one piece of advice for the start of any relationship, no matter what kind it is, is to listen to your gut. So many novices are lost in New Relationship Energy (NRE) or sub frenzy that they stop listening to the voice in their head telling them to question things, slow down and listen to your internal mother/father figure.
While I could go on and specify things that are common warning signs, many are not going to apply every single time, to every single person. You have to read Warning Signs posts with a grain of salt and take what you think will help you and leave the rest. With that said, I’m going to provide a few of those here for you to read.
Warning Signs, Dangers and Protecting Yourself
