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Tequila Rose is a full time slave who recently relocated to Germany to be with her Master. She has been in the lifestyle since her early twenties and continues to learn more about the lifestyle and being a slave. She now spends her days learning her new language and wandering the streets of Dortmund. You can contact her via email:

10 responses to “The Longing of Being Owned”

  1. txsweetpea

    So I’m not alone!? I’m not crazy?? (well…) When I’m not serving…I feel empty, hollow, incomplete. I thought I was just being a needy basket case. LOL Every now and then, I might not see my Sir for a couple of weeks because of schedules. We talk every day — 3-4 times plus texts and emails. But it’s still not the same even though He is in my head and I belong to Him. I start getting cranky, sassy, moody if I haven’t physically felt His power over me. Doing things to try and warrant punishment…craving His dominance. I feel much better after reading the article. THANK YOU!!! :)
    Oh…and I do not know why I haven’t read that series by Anne Rice…just added it to my goodreads queue! yay! I’m in the middle of reading Lisa Renee Jones’ Inside Out series and the journals.

  2. yoursonly

    So funny I was just talking to my dom last night about that book series. Thank you for reminding me who wrote it and now I need to read it again. It was that book series that made me realize this is what I wanted.

  3. HM

    I just discovered this site today and already it has opened my eyes and I’m so glad I found it.
    I am in my first D/s relationship and it is also long distance. I’ve noticed these intense emotions lately, and they’ve increased with each break between visits. (We only meet once a month) After our rendezvous I feel alive, vivacious and incredibly certain of myself and the world around me, but as time goes on I feel lost and this insatiable sense of longing. Reading this post put these negative feelings into words for me, “diagnosed them” per se, and also gave me insight into why I felt so empty in vanilla relationships in the past.

  4. Lori

    This is great!! I have an amazing Dom, and we share a LDR, and care greatly for him, but do sometomes long for more!! I may speak with him, my Dom, at some point about this, but am still fairly new..only around 2 months being a sub. I love it, and feel wonderful in my lifestyle! Best wishes to you over in Germany! Lori Miller

  5. HisBabygirlAlone

    i now know what this “longing”has been!! i did not begin to realize this until met my Sir, and he methodically & brilliantly began to peel back the layers …
    i had #no idea … and we’re just beginning …
    i am sooooo excited right now …

  6. HisBabygirlAlone

    Are contracts necessary?

  7. lunaKM

    @HisBabygirlAlone – Not at all. Some relationships use them, others don’t.

  8. HisBabygirlAlone

    Thanks! i am very new to this and am absorbing every bit of information i can about it …
    my body is #always a-tingle during the day … sometimes i have to take a break even while working, just to calm my thoughts and think about other things lolol
    Thanks, again!!

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