My question is how do i learn to be great for a Master seeing that i am a man. Women have so many advantages to pleasing their Master than i do. Can you give me some pointers? Thank you.

I'm not really sure what advantages that are uniquely female that don't have a male counterpart. I'm all about gender equality and personally don't see how a female submissive would have more to offer a male Dominant that a male submissive wouldn't. Sure they don't have the same anatomy but D/s isn't just about sex (not that you can't have sex), but all of the service, pleasing and joy of a D/s relationship can be replicated no matter what gender you and your Dominant are. If I'm missing the core of your question feel free to send me an email.

Hi, I am finally exploring my BDSM side. I keep feeling guilt and shame and can't seem to reconcile who I am with what I seem to like. I guess this is a common feeling so if there is a book I can read that gives advice, I would really appreciate it.

It is likely a more common feeling than you think. From a young age your parents and teachers send messages of what are and are not acceptable forms of sexual expression and BDSM is not a socially acceptable form of expression. But that doesn't mean it's wrong. Just different. There are a ton of articles online about shame and guilt related to your sexuality so I suggest you check them out. Here are a few that I recommend:

I'm a month out of my first D/s relationship which lasted roughly 3-4 intense months. Toward the end my Domme made a series of choices that threatened my sense of safety with her, even though I have intense feelings of love.  Now I can't see D/s without her. How do I move on? Every image of a D/s relationship i have includes her.

It's hard seeing the end of a relationship, no matter how long it lasted. The fact that it was your first will make it harder to let go and that's probably why you are still envisioning your ex-partner in your fantasies and thoughts. You will have to give it some time and eventually you will be able to visualize without her presence. You might like this chat night transcript about moving on after a breakup. I has some helpful tips in it.

My Dom is very protective and loving, I want to be pushed to my limits, he is worried about my welfare. I have never been in a relationship where he cares for me as much as I do him, how do I explain to him it is OK to push?

Very good question! It's quite common for Dominants, males in particular to have an issue with "hurting" women because of the social stigma attached to it. The idea is that the pushing you are asking for is consensual and that you will still be able to voice when you've had enough.  Morgan, of DominantGuide.com recently tackled this very question and I think her answer will stand on its own here. Give it a read, pass it on to him and best of luck.

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