I was recently asked to read the book ’The Diary of a Submissive‘ by Sophie Morgan to give my thoughts on it by one of the girls involved in promoting it. I didn’t receive anything for reviewing this book other than a free copy of it.
For anyone who wishes to read this book it is available on Amazon as an e-book at the moment and the paperback is available on 30th August 2012.
I have to be honest I was a bit dubious about reading this type of book since there are so many poorly written books out there. I read some of 50 Shades of Grey but couldn’t get to the end as I just had no interest in the characters since they were so unrealistic and the writing style was dull in my opinion.
The characters in ‘The Diary of a Submissive’ feel much more real.
The main character is a girl who discovers alternative relationships whilst in college and develops her submission with her boyfriends and learns about what it all means to her and to them also.
It was very refreshing to read something that has a mainstream publisher that makes a submissive woman appear intelligent, sane and ‘un-damaged’. Too many people have the impression that people who are involved in alternative relationships have some sort of weird past where they were abused or that they are loners or other types of social misfits when it really is not the case. Sophie shows that she is just one of the many people in this kind of relationship who are well-balanced, in a good career and happy in herself and her relationship choices.
Sophie’s background is quite a bit similar to mine in that I discovered submissive relationships when I was in my late teens and into my early twenties and I could relate to her a lot as my earliest explorations were very similar and again had mixed success with different partners. I think her story comes across as very real and very authentic, and many women will read it and think ‘this person is the sort of girl i would know, could perhaps be working with, or count among my friends’. I think her story shows that there is no harm in being true to yourself and exploring your fantasies sometimes it takes time to find someone who will share them in the same way but the journey is worth the end result and a lot can be learnt along the way.
I liked the story because it felt normal, it is the story of someone finding out that they like to be in a dom/sub relationship. It comes across as healthy and fun and is written like a friend telling you about their exploits that you would envy and want to share.
I don’t really want to spoil too much of the plot since it is worth a read for yourself, but here is one of my favourite quotes from it :
“It may sound odd that such cruelty and humiliation inspired the thought, but by the end of our weekend I knew I loved this twisted, clever, tender man who got upset at people being cruel to animals but took joy in doing horrible things to me that made my head spin. He had understood the parts of me I could barely articulate, and coaxed them into achieving and enduring amazing and cathartic things. The intensity of it took my breath away – it was like no-one had known me as well as he had, could understand my nature, my personality, better than him.”
I hope the book will be very successful for her and I wish her luck with it. It’s available here.
My name is lunaKM and I’m a full-time stay-at-home submissive in a D/s relationship.
I started blogging when I was exploring D/s online in 2003. I needed advice, mentors and helping hands. Since then I've made it my mission to help novice submissives understand themselves and the services they wish to provide. 
Even though I am reading too many books at once, I think I will get this book based on your review. It’s always good to read about “normal” people just being who they are.
I am reading this book right now as well as Conquer Me for the book club. I have not given Diary of a submissive a lot of attention since I am focused on the book club but I will soon. My Sir bought it for me so I hope to read it as soon as I am done with Conquer Me. So far I agree it is a “real” kind of story and I like that. Thanks for sharing your review with us.
I’m doing exactly with Brattyredsub is. I read “Conquer Me” for the book club, then early last week started “Diary of a Submissive” but stopped to re-read sections of “Conquer Me” for the book club responses! I look forward to finishing this book.
I recently read this book also. I am fairly new to the lifesytle, it was a very interesting and enlightening read.
This seems like a book I’d like to read. The cover art does remind me much of the cover of Twilight, though. I wonder if that’s intentional?
i loved, loved this book!! The story of one womans journey to learning herself, her constantly expanding boundaries, lots of punishment play, and she did a very good job of describing her struggle with it – dealing with it, her reactions to it, her struggle with understanding herself in it.
Her “list” to find in a man for a relationship is a hoot. “Loving, thoughtful, clever, funny, hold down a job he cares about so he’ll understand that she loves hers, like children & animals and not mind the smell of morning breath. Oh, and had to have a penchant for furting, controlling and humiliating her in as many imaginative, degrading way as he could come ip with, while not being an honest-to-goodness psychopath. As wish lists go ‘I might as well have added ‘the moon on a stick’ for a full set.” I literally laughed out loud at that!
i very much identify with her story in so many ways. In one segment, she described having not followed through on an assignment he had given her and she had to punish herself with him listening and talking to her on the phone, then had to write an explanation of everything she thought and felt during the punishment. i can only remember Master really punishing me twice and both were for failing to do something He’d instructed me to do and both times i remember feeling the same mix of shame, sorrow at disappointing, pain/discomfort, humiliation at what i was doing to myself at His instruction and how embarrassingly aroused the entire experience had been
I really loved it!
I read this book after my-Sir directed me to this book review. I finished in 2 days and absolutely LOVED it! I felt that it was a real account of one submissives journey into exploration, acceptance, and then living her submissive nature. I identified with a lot of it and have given it to my-Sir to read (at His request of course).
I also read Conquer Me which was another book I enjoyed as well.
Thanks, and keep the reviews coming!
Sirs-girl
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This book inspired me to start a journey into discovering my own submission. I related to her on so many levels, but also helped me discover the many other levels to explore.
I read Conquer Me based on the reviews and ABSOLUTELY loved it. I started reading Diaries of a Submissive because the reviews were also good. I did enjoy the book, but it was not as good to me as Conquer Me.
I am now reading this book and thoroughly enjoying it. I suffered through all 3 volumes of 50shades. This book is realistic (it says its true) but such a contrast to 50shades. The writing itself tells me she is educated rather than as with 50shades, a retelling of fantasies. I wish I could just curl up and read Diary but with the holidays I am forced to slowly enjoy it and even that, is fun. Typically, I race through something I enjoy reading just to find out what the ending is. And this book exemplifies what Sir tells me all the time, it is the journey not the destination that matters.
My Master gave me this book for Christmas. i have not started to read it yet but am looking forward to it
I did really enjoy this book. I was originally excited over the prospect of it being a memoir and offering a realistic and honest look into the world of BDSM within our society today. As a young woman it is these books alone that are helping me to understand my own sexual interests. However, I must admit I was somewhat disappointed with the notion that ‘some parts’ of the story had been exaggerated for the readers. I understand this is not uncommon, but I would have appreciated honesty, without the expectation of a book of truth. The chain of events and the ease in which she meet these amazing and kinky men was just beyond ridiculous. I approved of and was entertained by her writing style and I take great pleasure in reading erotic fantasy, so I have no qualms with that, however I simply would have liked a book that a normal young woman living in London could hope to relate to. Unless any of you know of any beautiful, charming, and kinky stock brokers that you are willing to introduce me to? All in all it ->was<- enthralling, and it was successful in my desire to purchase the second book when it comes out. (One thing that did play on my mind and heart was the relationship with Thomas, it pulled on my heart strings in numerous ways. Can a woman really have such an intimate relationship with a man and harbour NO romantic feelings? Charlotte in that respect was not favoured in my eyes. James however, I liked.)
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Thank you! ^-^
I’ve been reading all the comments above.
The question I have doesn’t really pertain to either of the books mention on this forum.
I have recently been left by my dom of 4 years! He refuses to explain anything to me or answer any of my questions or answer my calls.
Can anyone recommend a good self help book than can help me get through this awful period of my life? I don’t really have close friends that I can confide in about this relationship but I am feeling very much alone and having low self esteem problems as a result of it all.
Any information would greatly appreciated!
Any self help book that talks about recovery from a break up is going to help you. Try any of these: http://www.amazon.com/s/?_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&field-keywords=break%20up%20recovery&linkCode=ur2&tag=submissiveguide-20&url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks
Thank you so much for your recommendations!
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Are there local clubs/associations that you can go to? I’d guess that you are not the first, and will not be the last, to go through something like this. I have found through trama, trials, and tribulations in life that we do muddle through somehow, but if you can connect with folks who have been there, done that, it helps so much!!! You will see some real life examples of people who experienced what you have and lived through it and are even happy today.
Good luck and best regards,
betty
Thank you Betty for your kind words. Can you believe I was dumped via text message?
I’m 57 years old and really thought this part of my life was behind me!
Reading this book was pivotal for me in that it helped me to stretch beyond my previoulsy lived “safe” but unfulfilling life as a vanilla wife. I struggled and then accepted my heart of hearts. At first, I was honestly appalled by things Sophie liked to the point of over objecting. I discussed my thoughts with my husband (now Master) and he AND Sophie helped me along my path. I am now living the life I was meant to live. It feels so right… but having been in a Vanilla relationship with my husband for many years …. well, there were major growning pains along the way. As I read about Sophie and her journey to self discovery I found that I could no longer deny what was right in front of me all along. Who.I.Am. And I love who I am!! (((Hugs))) to Luna too, and her website which has also helped me to gain a bigger better understanding of a submissives live and how to achieve.
Peace and Love,
betty