I'm a submissive and my boyfriend is a dominant. I trust him fully and love that he pushes my limits. My problem is he won't allow me a safe word. I only want it in case something is about to break, I can't breathe, etc. He won't listen to my pleas to have one. Any advice to get him to listen to me?

Greetings,

This could be a dangerous problem... It is one thing that you trust your boyfriend, but if he is so adamant and in my opinion arrogant that he is unwilling to work with you on this when it is obviously a concern to you, something needs to be done. Safety always has to come first. There are people who do not need a safeword, but that is because of the Dominant checks in with them regularly and it is an agreement between the submissive and the Dominant. Not just how things go and is forced. I personally would never trust that situation. I wish you the best in this resolution and please be safe.

SehAnru