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lunaKM has been a full-time slave in an M/s relationship for over 10 years. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

4 responses to “Research Page: Domestic Discipline”

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  2. MrBBSpanker

    Hi Luna,
    Thank you kindly for including links to the A Domestic Discipline Society (ADDS) & Loving Domestic Discipline (LDD) Fetlife discussion groups in your original post.

    I would like to share with your readers, a Domestic Discipline Description that has been around for many years. It was specifically written not to be defined by gender, religion, sexual preference or relationship style.

    A Domestic Discipline Society (ADDS) / Domestic Discipline Description:
    (Originally Published 2006)

    Domestic Discipline (DD) is a consensual relationship lifestyle choice.
    Domestic Discipline is the consensual practice of a subtle Dominant and submissive type of lifestyle, with the emphasis on the relationship first. Then and only then, are spanking as disciplinary actions or any type of punitive ideas discussed. The Dominant partner is known as the Head of Household (HOH). The submissive partner is Taken in Hand (TIH). When implemented ideally, DD is the caring, consensual, consistently fair use of structure, accountability and discipline as a positive way to enhance communication, deepen intimacy and reinforce relationship commitment. The discipline normally includes one of many styles of disciplinary actions or measures, but first centers around rules of behavior asked for by one partner and agreed to by the other.

    The degree of power given to the HOH varies. Some couples may choose to have only a few agreed upon rules with set consequences, while others choose for the HOH to have a more encompassing leadership role.
    The most important detail to note is that there is no one set way to live the lifestyle and each couple modifies it meet their needs. Furthermore, the lifestyle is always entered upon with a consensual agreement between the partners. Couples outline the specific terms they have agreed upon so that there is no confusion.

    Spanking styles include- OTK, Erotic, Sensual, Maintenance, Reminder, Therapeutic, Cathartic, Playful, and varying degrees of Disciplinary Action & Punishment spankings to name only a few.

    Some Common Implements- HAND, smaller OTK style paddles & more conventional paddles of all styles, Hairbrush, Wooden Spoon to name a few of the most common. Depending on the couple implements may also include Leather straps, Belt, Cane… or anything the couple decides to bring into their lifestyle.

    Other disciplinary actions might include, corner time, time-out, sent to room, revocation of privileges, writing lines etc… Again, it depends on each specific couple/household.

    Thanks Luna :)

  3. stillme

    “Discipline and Love” is a five year old active domestic discipline discussion forum with conversation and articles about all aspects of domestic discipline, D/s, resources, beginners advice, on site and off-site live chat, links, book reviews and much more



  4. Princess

    Myself and my husband live a Domestic Discipline lifestyle and I have been into DD for over 20 years. It has always been a need for me more than a want. Ever since my teens I knew I wanted to be with a man who could be strong, in control but loving at the same time!

    I was lucky enough to meet my now husband SirDD and now we run a DD website to help those living DD network with others and for those seeking a DD relationship. Please take a a look at Domestic Discipline Life

    Princess x

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