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Ted_subby is a 49 year old submissive to his monogamous dominant wife of over a dozen years. On his male submission web page at he posts fictional stories as well as a blog of his experiences with his dominant wife. Feel free to message him on FetLife or e-mail.

6 responses to “Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 2- My Partner is Not Interested”

  1. Dollie

    Thabk you for the article… Unfortunately I am a Slave and my partner is no Master (as in the later half of situation 2). I wish there was anything I could do to turn him or to banish these desperately submissive desires from myself.

    One again, thank you for the article.. I wish it (or anything else) could help more.
    Dollie

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  4. Amber

    I just wanted to thank you for this article. I have just learned of this bdsm world and everything is so exciting. Every article I read just pulls me further into wanting to explore these new fantasies I am having. So, I told my husband about them, what ive learned so far, what I might want to try. At first he made me feel like a total freak! It has been a few weeks now, and he seems to maybe coming around to the idea a little more. As in he is doing his reseach also, but he has yet to try something new. Its still just ol vanilla for us. He says he can’t be dominant like that. I don’t know what will end up happening. Im hoping he can come around more. Try something new. But I just wanted to say how happy to see this article on here. I am a very shy person, always get embarrassed talking about sex, even with my husband but I know what I want, and this did help me share that with him… thank you keeping fingers crossed!

  5. ted_subby

    Thank you Amber, I am glad you enjoyed the article.

    Your husband doing research is a great sign in my view that he does not just brush this off without caring, as some partners might do. He may or may not become interested in participating, but that he cares enough to listen to you and look into it is a big plus. And if in only a few weeks he has gone from thinking that you were a freak to maybe coming around to the idea more, that is progress.

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