Mentoring, self-help and submissive exploration

lunaKM has been a full-time slave in an M/s relationship for over 10 years. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

6 responses to “What Is A Doormat Submissive?”

  1. Ashley

    The book is not free it’s actually 5$…. Anyway to get it truely free as you claim it is?

  2. selkie

    Holy crow. I so wish I’d found this site years ago. When I think about all the ways this info could have helped me when my Owner and me first got together, things would have been so much easier. Articles like this one would have made those early years a lot more bearable than they were. And I’ve been reading up on Sub Drop… words cannot express how difficult those times were, and we had no clue that what was happening was normal. We worried that I was mental in some way! I was seeing therapists and getting put on these meds that made me a zombie… all because of Sub Drop!
    Yes, apparently I was a doormat for a while, too. Luna, I really can’t thank you enough for doing this, you are truly a hero!!


  3. beautifulheartandmind

    Hello all,

    I am new here and I must say lunakm, I love your site so far. It’s funny, I have been saying this “doormat” phrase for a while. I can only say that I have completely fought my submissiveness every step of the way (and I have known since I was very young). It’s been very painful to not see it and it’s been even more painful trying to find the right Dom to cultivate me into desiring to be his submissive. I have also found that direct communication is key to initiating any relationship built on being submissive. We don’t enjoy saying things, we want others to say them for us. We don’t enjoy being up front and Dominant when we crave to just feel the safety of submission.

    Actually a person that I was “talking to” that we had explored the topic very general encouraged me to explore my own self- sexually and non-sexually. I have found that in his caring and wonderful way has allowed me to find my place, my center, and since then I have felt so much more at ease. Not once has he treated me as a doormat- in fact, I would say that he is most like a very loving and wonderful Dom.

    We are probably going to begin this journey together- and I am for one excited! I am so glad I found your site because I have already read many of your writings that have helped me connect, so thank you!


  4. Skwirt

    Can I have the link to the e-book? The page the link sent me to did not have Wants and Needs listed. Thanks.

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