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7 responses to “I Don’t Want to Complain Too Much”

  1. bonimiss

    I think I complain too much also but I think it depends on the wording if Sir sees it as a complaint or just a status report. It is in the inflection and if it is in the tiny, whiney voice, yup its a whining. I have recognized some topics are off limits for whining. But I also know it is up to Sir to make the final determination and I should not withhold information if I am upset or have questions. But sometimes I just can’t hold back that “oooohhh” when our daily phone calls ends. It is out of my mouth before I realize it and I try to stop it but I am seldom successful.

  2. Sorcha

    This was extremely helpful for me, since i have been struggling with complaining about the lag in communication with my Master, who resides 2000 miles away from me. i simply must remember that we both are busy, and have other duties and responsibilities…the two hour time difference will always be a factor as well. Finding ways to share my frustration that doesn’t come off as whiny and immature, while still being transparent with Him is something i continue to deal with. One way i am learning to deal with it is by journal writing daily, and sending each entry to Him for review. That way we can talk about it in a more objective state of mind.

  3. mystical

    I am just entering into a part time D/s relationship with my fiance. We have been together 11 yrs. He has ordered me to write a novel. First it was only for a week. Now it is basically a permanent thing. He has said it is to be from fantasies. I have no fantasies. I have no life experience as a sub to draw from for this endeavor either. He is upset with me and feels as if I have given up. I have tried to explain that this is a difficult task and is something that needs to flow freely, not be ordered or expected. It is as if I have writer’s block and I’m not even a writer. He says I’m complaining.

  4. brendazthoughts

    My Master and I have a new relationship that has to be kept secret. We are just starting out. I want to see him more, I don’t want to whine and beg…it is not in my nature to do so, and I think that it may be displeasing to him. He has important work, and he wants me to improve in a specific area and has told me that I need to improve my grade and that I would have to wait until after the exam to meet again so that I do not become distracted. I want to whine, and beg him to change his mind, but I don’t think he would like that. He told me I have to learn to delay gratification….I want to please him…I don’t know if I have so far, the only thing I have to go on is that he came back…I wonder if I should journal, I will ask him, or is that something I shouldn’t do…

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  6. awwitsreni

    Honestly, its things like this that i struggle with. i dont want to be viewed as a complainer, which is what my Sir views me as, but i feel like he isnt hearing me. i know he is the Master and he makes the rules, but in the same respect shouldnt i have a say? At least be allowed to express my concerns and feelings and have them heard without it being thought of as bitching? i dont like the idea of hiding my feelings. But i dont know how to express them appropriately and its not something i can talk about with friends because they don’t know or understand the type of relationship we have. i find it hard to improve myself without feedback from others.

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