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6 responses to “Emotional Dependency in D/s Relationships”

  1. Bren

    This is a great reminder to adore our dominant without giving up love and value for self.

  2. Kelly

    Nice piece. I like how you did not forget to mention that interdependence in vanilla relationships, too!

  3. Studentjen

    i am so happy that i found this today of all days. i am struggling with this very issue and have been my whole life. And the main reason why any relationship that i start never lasts.

  4. Rachel

    I really needed to read this. Thank you.

    I was wondering just the other day if I was somehow unhealthily attaching to Master. Mainly because I feel like I care for myself more than I ever have in my life, but because I belong to him now. This helped me clear up some of those uncertain thoughts. Thank you!

  5. CarteBlanche

    I am so thankful that I stumbled upon this old post.

    I am struggling with attachment issues with my Dominant at present and this post has really helped me to identify my problem. I am too reliant on Master and perhaps far too needy. He is unbelievable and I find myself falling deeper and deeper. We live thousands of miles apart but yet I feel like He is right beside me every day. In everything that I do I feel His presence. I know that I cannot own or possess Him as He does me and this is a transient relationship that will inevitably come to an end. I need to let go of the attachment and live from moment to moment, enjoying the journey but not grab hold of the possibilities of the future. Thank you for this post. It has made my mind much clearer and given me a starting off point to work towards letting go.

  6. Girlonarope

    Thank you for this. I am going through a transition in my relationship where my partner is seeking less dependancy from me and suggested that they are resetting me. It’s a hard transition but I am realizing that it is absolutely necessary for any growth from each of us. I am looking forward to surviving in this relationship by changing our mindset, but it is a little challenging because everything I have been acustom to is not reality, so it is interesting. I feel more free and I’m able to focus more on what I need in my own life.

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