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SubWise #8 – Submission in Public

Last week I asked you to talk all about submission in public.

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9 responses to “SubWise #8 – Submission in Public”

  1. Theresa

    When I get the chance, I like to show my submission publically.

    For my Dom Partner and I, it’s about the small things. I have to walk on his left side, he will sometimes hold my wrist if hes not holding my hand, and I wear some kind of a collar whenever we are together. I will even answer him with “Yes/No Daddy” if told to, if not the fall back is usually “Yes/No Sir”.

    It’s not much but for us its a nice start. We hope to to incorporate more outward submission as we progress.
    .-= Theresa´s last blog ..Beannachtaí na Féile Pádraig =-.

  2. littlecubsub

    I am submissive to Master where ever we happen to be. If it is in public, then so be it. It is not something turned on or off.

    If in a store, I can ask to see things or buy things, Master will say OK or not this time. Our close friends know about our lifestyle so it is not strange for them to see me deferring to Master, his relatives just think I am very polite and nice, ha, ha which also means they are always telling Master to make sure he is looking after me. :)

  3. lesme

    Mostly i wear a black velvet collar. Sometimes from lether. But its easier for a woman to wear something who looks as a collar. And i speak always polite to my Mistress, always asking what She wants. And our friends now how W/we live. and others find me extreme polite and very humble :) But thats what W/we need in our realation. And when we walk hand in hand my Mistress is mostly taking me by the wriste. Not always but many times She do that as a sign she is owning me.

  4. Kasey

    We are not in a place in our lives where we can be public, in any way, with our private lifestyle. We have kiddos afoot and they would simply not understand. I have been wearing a tight necklace to become accustomed to wearing something tight on my throat. Once we find a collar that Master likes, it won’t seem weird for me to wear it because I’ll have been wearing something for a long time. I have also been carrying stories I’ve written for my Master in my bag. When I have a minute, or have to wait, I pull out the story(stories) and re-read them. Sometimes, I get an idea of how to continue the story, other times I think of a whole new story. And I imagine the people around me as characters. This helps me feel my place no matter where I am.

  5. Miscie

    Thank you all for this question. My Dom and i actually had a conversation about a week ago about how we should address eachother if in public. He wasn’t comfortable calling me what he usually calls me which is little miss so He came up with the name Miscie. He is leaving it up to me whether or not i want to call Him Sir or “D” which is the first letter in his name and in the word Dom. Right now i call him D most of the time – Sir is used for special times. We have not been able to go out into public together yet so i’m not sure what that dynamic will be like. As long as i remain respectful and attentive then i think it will work out well.
    Miscie
    .-= Miscie´s last blog .. =-.

  6. johnswoodshed

    From an Old Dom’s point of view.
    Sorry about the late posting.
    First I’m in my 60’s and have been living in D’s community for 50 years. I acquired my first sub in high school in the early 60’s, and “YES” we knew what we were trying to do even at that age. I have had the very special privilege of 8 female sub’s giving me their submission over the years. My current sub is in her early 40’s and will be with me until I die.
    Now about “Submission in Public”:
    My sub wears a leather collar all of the time, the only exception being her place of work, in the water, and during sleep, she requires permission to remove it. When in public I will attach her leach to her collar and lead her around by it. If I hand her the leach she may go where she wants on her own (within reason), if I drop her leach she must stay where she is. She is not allowed to talk with anyone without permission when on her leach, but when off leach she may talk to anyone unless I stop it. If she wants to talk with me she tugs on her leach to let me know. She may not talk without permission when on her leach.
    I hope this helps someone.
    JohnP

  7. btrainwreck

    I serve sir however he likes when we are outside of the house. I doctor his coffee at coffeehouses, respect his wishes, ask him permission to enter certain stores, entertain our friends with witty banter, and retrieve drinks for everyone on evenings out. We are open with our kinks to friends but never really told them about our 24/7 lifestyle. They just think that I am subserviant and that is right! (beams with pride)

  8. saroona

    I am very new to this lifestyle and also living in a different country from my master we haven’t actually been able to live our desires yet even though we have been in a loving relationship for five years

    Now to the point I wanted to make public submission hidden discreetly is one of the things i am most excited for.
    The subtle signs of dominance will give me goosebumps!

  9. JuicyGirl

    My Master has provided me with rules that I am to follow. He wants me to succeed as much as I want to please him. In public, My Master does all the ordering. He decides where, when and what we do. I do not give my opinion unless Master asks for it. If I have a need that needs fulfilled/addressed, I can ask my Master. When in public I do not make eye contact with anyone other than my Master. When in public, I address him as Master. We have not had an opportunity where I have had to address him other. I have on occasion erred (as it is hard not to make eye contact with a server and thank them) and made eye contact with a server and it’s extremely hard for them to not address my Master when it comes to the specifications of an order, so I have learned to become ‘preoccupied’ with the menu or some other object where I am looking away and he is then able to answer for me.

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