This is a guest post by Slut M as a response to SubWise #6 about BDSM Myths.
According to the mythological story, a slut is a downtrodden woman who by nature or by circumstances is propelled to debase her body in sexual desires. And so the story goes: these sexual desires control her and her behavior is based on sexual impulses with no thought to consequences or ethics. A slut cannot take her place in rational society, relegated to a shadowy existence because no decent man, woman or child would or could relate to a woman who cannot control her sexual desires. A slut is always a rejected woman who no man would acknowledge as being in relationship with her. A slut has given up on her own morality and therefore has no right to insist on kindness, respect or love. She cannot be redeemed; her broken spirit must accept this invisible deformity that manifests itself by insatiable desire for sexual activity. She is a glutton for sex.
The myth instructs our young women who blossom with joy and excitement as their first sexual feelings begin to surface….control your feelings or you could become a slut. Adolescent girls that become school sluts are reviled by their peers all because they like sex. So the hidden slut emerges in adolescence. Girls and boys who suppress their powerful sexual desires and will eventually lose touch with that part of themselves. The hidden slut becomes the unknown part of the self and yet remains to propel and motivate the slut as he or she matures and experiences life with all its joys, disappointments and pain. The slut makes incorrect choices and learns to live without sexual passion and release. The slut is locked in the soul and may remain hidden throughout one’s life.
BDSM offers a key to unlock the slutty soul. Our sluts are people who mature to a level of sexual freedom with dignity and ethics. Sexual feelings find expression instead of suppression. The body, mind and soul find comfort in sexual intimacy that flows to and from their partners. The slut is not confined by gender, age or experience. A slut is giving, using his or her sexual energy to satisfy their partners and bring pleasure to those who embrace sluttiness as a virtue. To be called a slut is a compliment in the BDSM world. A slut is a giver who enjoys releasing sexual passion for the fulfillment and pleasure of others who can reciprocate in the exchange of intimacy in either BDSM or vanilla play.
A slut is dominant or submissive with the overwhelming desire to experience oneness with another by joining bodies in sexual play. A slut can achieve self-actualization in the scene by embracing his or her true nature for the mutual benefit of partners. Play reaches a spiritual level as emotional doors are opened, seen, and embraced instead of feared as the myth would have us believe. Joy, release, and contentment flow through other aspects of life among family, friends and the work environment because the slut knows where he or she belongs. BDSM offers a profound acceptance of the self through the expression of sexual passion that in turn enriches ones entire life and future experiences and decisions.
Slut M is a submissive who entered the scene in July 2008 by receiving her first spanking from her Dominant. She and her Dominant have been pursuing a M/s relationship since then and expect to fully achieve this status in the future. Otherwise, she is single-parent raising 2 teens and working.
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My name is lunaKM and I’m a full-time submissive in a D/s relationship. I am webslut to 
Very good intro and comparison of the slut in the vanilla world and what it means in BDSM. I am and have always been a very sensual person. I am new to D/s and it most definitely brings me balance as I am completely free to seek, embrace and enjoy my sexual desires.
Thanks for this! One of my slave sisters has been trying to think of a way to explain “slut” not being a negative term to her when Master calls her His slut. Most of her online friends dont seem to understand though. Even some in the lifestyle see words such as slut in a negative light. You explained here exactly what we had been trying to explain to people all along.
Thanks for sharing Shawna. Im brand new to this. I have a deep desire to please my boyfriend sexually. I love the thought of orgasm control. cuming on his comand, just turning my whole self over to him and his desires. even if he wants to bring a friend home and share me. Telling me what he would like to see or what his friend wants. I feel such passion about his because then all of his fantasy’s and desires are fulfilled and he is in control. I would love for him tolearn to be my master. I love the thought of a sister slave too. Tow of us pleasing him. I’m glad to not feel about myself in a negative way feeling that a slut is bad. I want to be his slut for whatever he wants. If he is happy I am too. :D
Wht direction to I go in to help our relationship obtain the level you all are al?
Thank you so much!
My Master doesn’t use the word “slut” it in the “BDSM” way, simply because we have more of a dominant/submissive relationship. The only time he uses slut is when he has been angry with me (and he only says he thinks bad names like that when he is mad at me, after we have made up. I guess it’s hard to explain.)^^
I am a newcomer to this website, so I take what can be applicable to our relationship and let the rest be.
This is an excellent post and for me it encompasses the word slut perfectly – i am a slut and my Master cals me it often, i am His Cockslut, Cumslut, Fuckslut etc and do my best to fulfill these roles.
Importantly for me i relate and adhere to being a slut, and always have done, even when at school etc it was deemed the worst thing to be called, although I felt it in private as to admit it would have been social suicide!!!!
May i say this is an excellent site, reading these articles has become part of my daily routine to honour my submissive nature and be a better more obbedient slut.
mist x