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lunaKM has been a full-time slave in an M/s relationship for over 10 years. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

13 responses to “My Submissive Code of Ethics”

  1. AGreekMuse

    Luna, Thank-you so much for sharing your code of ethics As a new sub I am already struggling with a few of your items mentioned and I think writing it down this way will help to keep me focused.It will remind me gently what I strive for when I write out my own code of ethics! What a great idea ! Thanks.Muse

  2. lunaKM

    I’m so glad you liked it and if you decide to share yours sometime I’d love to see it.

  3. Rebekah

    luna, I have been serving my Master for many years now and never stopped to think to develop this code. I did this a couple of weeks ago and presented it to my Master. He was thrilled and touched. Thank you for posting this and putting it into my mind to even consider it. At first, I thought it would be hard, but once I got going I realized I had an entire ‘uwritten’ code that I already lived by…and this was just the final expression of it.

    Thank you!

  4. Mike

    By embodying “yes” to her master, the true Submissive enters every aspect of his mind, because yes brings him to express his desires, down to the smallest detail and you will know that, though he possesses you, you possess him by allowing him to possess you–you embody the fulfillment of all his desires and you know what all of them are–unlike inferior, non-submissive women.

  5. DaddysLilGirl

    Good day-

    I’m a newbie and I have found a Dom (or he has found me) and I’m pleased that he took me into his consideration. I found the Code of Ethics wonderful and will develop some for myself. This is a wonderful site and I’m looking forward to building with you all.


  6. Pet

    I think I need to do this for myself….. I have a hard time focusing and think writing down my “codes” might help me. I need something to help me after 12 years with my Master I still feel like I do everything wrong….

  7. sassygrl

    i was an owned sub not long ago and had a hard time getting a grip on things. My Master and i decided it was best to go separate ways. Recently we have been talking again and working on D/s and see where it will take us. Luna i came across your Code of Ethics and loved the idea, that i wrote mine and sent them to who is now my protector and Sir (i’m still unowned at this time) it was a challenge but it taught me to look at the parts i struggle with so i am able to focus and learn. I’ve also started a journal online and that has helped as well. This site has been wonderful for me and in a short time i’ve learned more then i did in months. I am actually relaxed now as a sub. Thank you for this site.


  8. tayter_tot

    Thank you so much for sharing!

  9. Tim

    Love it! When I began serving my wife I wrote her a letter telling her what she could expect from me and I have been using that as a guide so far. I think a code of ethics is a great idea that can keep me focused on the most important thing in my life, My Princess. I will begin working on it today!

  10. SweetArweb

    Thank you so much for sharing this, Luna! I myself am a newly owned submissive and look forward to serving my Master for many years to come. What a wonderful way to express your feelings and goals!

  11. lynne

    Hi Sassy,
    I too, have travelled down a similar road with mine. We are trying again for both of us are in a much better place. Isn’t it nice to have second chances? Once u feel more secure, it changes everything. This site is invaluable and serves as an excellent resource!


  12. Tom

    “Remaining healthy is very important to the health of our relationship. I will continue to work towards losing weight and getting active until that time he feels I have reached my ultimate goal.”

    This is a very important goal, but having lost 60 lbs myself, I can tell you that losing weight is not something you do and then are done with it. For it to be effective eating less and being more active has to be a permanent lifestyle change. So I suggest that the until clause be removed, as you never get to stop thinking about how much you eat. And as I age, I also find I have to keep adding exercises to keep in shape.

    Thanks for the site and lots of good things to think about.


  13. dc

    Thank you so much for sharing this, Luna! Your site gives me great insight on dealing with my current situation, after 25 years of marriage I opened up to my husband about being a submissive and about my needs and your site has been very helpful to U/us.

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