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lunaKM has been a full-time slave in an M/s relationship for over 10 years. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

3 responses to “Book Review: The Surrendered Wife”

  1. dove

    Like you I have a lived in a vanilla marriage for sever years (14yr) before that marriage ended. I entered into a D/s relationship which later became a M/s relationship… and finally incorperating marriage to the mix. MH and I have been together 9 1/2 yrs now.

    I read the book several years on recommendation from another submissive. I found there were a few things I could learn from it. I recently re-read the book In Sept of this year, thinking to brush up, and give it a closer look.

    Like the OP says, there is info that can be gleaned from the book. Its a good starting point and it does have SOME good advice. Also like the OP suggests: Take what you can and leave the rest.

    On my latest reading of thebook and looking through it a bit deeper; I found that some of the suggestion made, could be interpreted as: manipulation. Manipulation in a D/s or M/s relationship.. our anyway, isn’t tollerated. MH prefers a direct approach, and views manipulations as ‘topping from the bottom’.

    Granted I learned some valuable things that I could incorperate into our lifestyle, but I also learned what was not acceptable too.

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  3. Crystal

    That is the problem I ran into with this book, to me a LOT of it seemed like manipulation, which is NOT what I want to be doing. I stopped reading this book about halfway through because of that reason, but maybe I will try again and reread it, doing as suggested, take what I can use, and ignore the rest!

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