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lunaKM a full-time slave in an M/s relationship. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

12 responses to “Am I Submissive?”

  1. mecontent

    Love the new layout.
    Very user friendly.
    I truly do love what you do. I have been logging on for a few months now and have learned soooo much.
    When I am better off financially I will be supporting this site.

  2. destiny

    This site is wonderful! Has assisted this neophyte to follow a destined path ~ thanks for making this site available ~ Hope to see more like it!

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  4. Jim

    I like the 4 spaces being defined and those are good places for me to practice and learn in. I’ve always known, or thought, that I am submissive to Women. Perhaps I am merely controlled by them with ease. In any case, I like that, but I am making too many mistakes with my Female Dominant and thus I really need to find out more about myself.

    - Jim

  5. jay

    I’ve been recently exploring bdsm and this guide was really helpful. Everyone assumes I’m a dominant because I have a very stong personality, am very independent and confident, but I’m actually a switch. I did not think of myself as submissive at ALL for a long time and then realized that a lot of my personality traits are similar to the ones on this list–the joy that I get out of being in service to my partner. I’m not passive at ALL but I absolutely love serving the Dom that I’m involved with. And I’ve always been that way, I just didn’t know what it meant!

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  7. LuckyTiger23

    I am very glad that I found this!! I have known for a while that I am submissive but this puts it into words that make sense. I am still learning what I can and trying to make myself be better for a future Dom.

  8. newtothis

    I’ve been struggling with how I’ve felt for years now, and what you describe totally fits me. I’m chastised all the time by my friends and family because I go out of my way to please people and it often leaves me hurt and confused. I want to know more, any tips? Thank you x

  9. katIRL

    good one luna!
    I would only add a feeling of self fullfilment when doing something for Him… but maybe it would be going a little too far ;-)

  10. katIRL

    I think it would be really helpful to subscribe to the e-course you find on the website, there’s two of them actually and I don’t remember the title… I was considering subscribing again myself, since that e-course is particularly helpful. It takes a little while before getting started, but it’s worth it!

  11. Barenziah

    I am not generally submissive, I am strong willed and when my husband asks me to do something my knee jerk reaction is to tell him No. However, I have always been fascinated by the D/s dynamic and find it very…erotic.

    i have in several ways expressed this interest to my husband and he dabbles in it a bit, using a more forceful tone or something along those lines…I think the idea of being a Dom and everything it entails kind of freaks him out…

    So, Yesterday my husband TOLD me to make his lunch. My first instinct is as I said, to tell him where he can shove it, but I made the conscious decision to acquiesce and to obey his order…and just the act of making his lunch made me blush and get… tingly.

  12. Amanda

    Thank you for this article! Granted, it didn’t tell me exactly what I was wondering, rather the exact opposite… Unfortunately. :/ You’re a fantastic writer though and your thoughts are lined out very well!

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