Comments on: The Disposable Relationship Mentality http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/10/disposable-relationship-mentality/ novice mentoring, self help and submissive exploration Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:55:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: kinkylittlegirlhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/10/disposable-relationship-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1495 kinkylittlegirl Mon, 21 Dec 2009 06:49:28 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=2430#comment-1495 I couldn't agree more.What chafes with my most recent relationship is that despite telling me he believed deeply in things like couples counseling, if a relationship hits a rough patch that the two people involved can't navigate on their own, and he did that with his wife (and he initiated it), when he and I hit major snags together, he *refused* to do it with me. He claimed serious dedication to the relationship, but when push really came to shove to work through the hardest parts, he ended up bailing out. .-= kinkylittlegirl´s last blog ..<a href="http://kinkylittlegirl.wordpress.com/2009/12/20/dominants-coming-through-on-their-word/" rel="nofollow">Dominants Coming Through on Their Word</a> =-. I couldn’t agree more.

What chafes with my most recent relationship is that despite telling me he believed deeply in things like couples counseling, if a relationship hits a rough patch that the two people involved can’t navigate on their own, and he did that with his wife (and he initiated it), when he and I hit major snags together, he *refused* to do it with me. He claimed serious dedication to the relationship, but when push really came to shove to work through the hardest parts, he ended up bailing out.
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]]> By: lunaKMhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/10/disposable-relationship-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1153 lunaKM Wed, 11 Nov 2009 22:40:59 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=2430#comment-1153 Thank you. I'm glad to know that others feel that relationships are work and that both parties need to develop them in order for them to work and be worth it. Thank you. I’m glad to know that others feel that relationships are work and that both parties need to develop them in order for them to work and be worth it.

]]> By: selkiehttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/10/disposable-relationship-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-1148 selkie Wed, 11 Nov 2009 12:55:01 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=2430#comment-1148 Actually, I agree with everything you've written here. The reality is that EVERY relationship will hit rough patches, every relationship will hit BORING patches, every relationship will hit places where you think you cannot connect anymore ... that's where the "working" part comes in. I find it helpful when you get to a rough patch to stand back, remove yourself mentally for a bit and try to remember who you fell in love with - yeah, that guy- and start looking for those bits in the person you're angry, bored, irritated, whatever with. Surprisingly, 9 out of 10 times you'll find that person again ... relationships require commitment, work and effort - and are worth it all. Actually, I agree with everything you’ve written here. The reality is that EVERY relationship will hit rough patches, every relationship will hit BORING patches, every relationship will hit places where you think you cannot connect anymore … that’s where the “working” part comes in. I find it helpful when you get to a rough patch to stand back, remove yourself mentally for a bit and try to remember who you fell in love with – yeah, that guy- and start looking for those bits in the person you’re angry, bored, irritated, whatever with. Surprisingly, 9 out of 10 times you’ll find that person again … relationships require commitment, work and effort – and are worth it all.

]]> By: Kharishttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/10/disposable-relationship-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-960 Kharis Tue, 27 Oct 2009 17:36:28 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=2430#comment-960 I've noticed this trend as well and have even been guilty of it. I think in this day and age, relationships are treated as accessories so, like any watch, necklace, or scarf, it can be tossed aside at a moment's notice. Unfortunately, lessons of the emotional, physical, and spiritual can all be lost in the fray and the person bounces into the next relationship feeling completely validated in their decision; never questioning what actions of theirs led to the decline of a relationship.At this point, I'm in entering into a relationship that I am very uncertain about, but that meets both of our needs. We feed each other mentally and physically and I think that is something worth holding on to. He is teaching me about better service and I am teaching him about how crazy a "moon-girl" can really be. LOL! In it for the long haul, gods willing. I’ve noticed this trend as well and have even been guilty of it. I think in this day and age, relationships are treated as accessories so, like any watch, necklace, or scarf, it can be tossed aside at a moment’s notice. Unfortunately, lessons of the emotional, physical, and spiritual can all be lost in the fray and the person bounces into the next relationship feeling completely validated in their decision; never questioning what actions of theirs led to the decline of a relationship.

At this point, I’m in entering into a relationship that I am very uncertain about, but that meets both of our needs. We feed each other mentally and physically and I think that is something worth holding on to. He is teaching me about better service and I am teaching him about how crazy a “moon-girl” can really be. LOL! In it for the long haul, gods willing.

]]> By: SexWarriorhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/10/disposable-relationship-mentality/comment-page-1/#comment-948 SexWarrior Mon, 26 Oct 2009 14:58:51 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=2430#comment-948 That's an interesting post..... food for thought. Thanks x .-= SexWarrior´s last blog ..<a href="http://twosexwarriors.blogspot.com/2009/10/end-of-master-and-pet.html" rel="nofollow">The End of Master and pet...</a> =-. That’s an interesting post….. food for thought. Thanks x
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