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Strengths and Misconceptions of Kajira
September 16, 2009 by Guest Author [474 views]
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This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira.
The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does.
And what strengths better a kajira in being her Master’s absolute and total property….
I want to make one statement before I write what was set of me.
Gor, Gorean philosophy, Gorean lifestyle is exactly that. A lifestyle that is chose by those that have a particular set of intrinsic ideals. I have no time for role-players or wannabes. it is not something that you can ‘act’. It is not a ‘role’ you can play. It has to be lived, from the heart. Also, Gor is a fictional planet within a series of fantasy novels written by John Lange under the pen name John Norman. Gorean lifestyle can be lived here on Earth, but with adaptations, compromises and understanding. Gor of the books is fiction. The underlying principles and values are real.
I feel I should start with the misconceptions surrounding a kajira, as I know so many people in my life that would look with horror and complete incomprehension of that word (that is is they knew what it meant). To outside observers Gorean philosophy appears to subjugate women, treating them as mere objects, owned, ordered about, used as mere sex objects. It also appears at first glance to be all about sex, about sex mad dumb blondes with no brains or ability to exercise their own independence or free will… with no brains to know what they want, reliant on another person. women who have no mind of their own, no thoughts or ideas. Men who want to just use females, objectify them, dehumanise them… All in all, weak minded, easily controlled people who get a kick out of being treat like a piece of meat.
Sorry to disappoint you all agreeing with that statement, but it isn’t.
The Gorean lifestyle actually allows women to be women and men to be Men. I am a woman, quite categorically female and I am a completely different creature of the human species type to Men, I am softer in nature, more emotional, curvier and more able to love unconditionally. Gor allows me to be true to my nature and to myself.
Ultimately Gor comes down to the need for control though. The need of one person to be controlled and another to take control. Gor is about finding yourself in fulfilling that need.
So what are the strengths of a kajira?
For me a kajira is a woman who is confident in her femininity, strong in her commitment and strong in spirit. As kajira I offered myself to my Master freely, of my own free will and in that I chose to give my own will into his care. I am obedient, not because I have to, but because I choose to be. I know I can be forced into obedience by my Master, but that would not be pleasing. My first priority is to be pleasing to my Master and within that I choose to willingly do whatever he asks in order to meet his desires. In doing so I gain pleasure. A kajira is expected to give herself over entirely to her Master, heart, mind, body and spirit and under his guidance learn what is expected of her. I find as I learn more and more what is expected of me, I give more and more of myself. It is without doubt a difficult process and fears surface each time a limit is pushed or a change is realised, but it is a very worthwhile journey and not everything is painful. A Master does not walk this path out of cruelty or a desire to inflict pain, or a desire to have a kajira who will blindly do his bidding… I mean, how many people really want to spend time with a mindless robot? I don’t walk this path as kajira out of fear either, but because I want to. I want to please my Master, in every and any way I can. I want to meet his expectations of me, I want him to be proud of who and what I am, and what I freely give to him out of love and trust and submission. I need to remember, internalize that thought and trust that what my Master demands of me is for my own good.
It has been said that a kajira has no responsibilities or thoughts of her own, that the master holds all the responsibilities. All I can say to that is get real! have you ever actually thought about what it really means to be pleasing to a Master at all times? I am by no means expert, but even I know It certainly is not easy and neither is it meant to be. I find my master makes me look into myself, recognize and accept my beauty, speak my ideas, thoughts, dreams, fantasies and aspirations and be loved just for being myself. It is a hard thing to do.. to accept yourself and realize that you are loved just for being that person, the dark side of your nature just as much as the light. It takes an inordinate amount of strength, but in doing so I see that no matter what, my love for him is returned 10 fold and I am forced to feel it; I feel my life is safe from harm, that my Master protects me and shields me from all that is wrong in the world, whether that be other peoples actions, intent or malice. This strong, dominant, honourable man who consciously and purposefully demands every intimate feeling and thought I have. The desire and need that creates within me is overwhelming, the need to turn over my most basic human rights and trust totally and completely in one Man and his decisions. In a previous post I made reference to IE. IE for those that do not know, stands for Internal Enslavement. If you want to know what that is, look it up. I am not going to explain it here.
The strengths of a kajira for me is to allow this to happen. To have the strength to give that level of control over to another, to trust that they will act accordingly in the best interests of both themselves and their property. The strength to look into yourself and accept everything that is there, good and bad. The strength to change aspects of yourself in order to please another. The strength to place everything you have ever accepted as intrinsic to who you are, to one side as you learn. To relearn who you are and your place in life and in society. The strength to consciously choose a path whereby another will exercise the process of IE within you, knowing full well that as you walk that path you consciously and freely chose the end result, the result whereby you are psychologically bound to your Master in such a way you are mentally no longer able to exercise free will.
I am uncomfortable admitting it within myself, but I am a strong person. It keeps being pointed out to me and demonstrated quite clearly, but I feel uncomfortable accepting it when I find myself turning into everything I have previously detested. but I am strong. I will make those changes for my Master, not just because he demands it of me, but because I need to. It takes great strength to be completely 100% honest with another, especially when it is regarding things you are ashamed of or things that have upset you in the past, but I do it. I do so because I trust my Master to guide me and teach me how to please him better. One that sticks out quite sharply for me as a strength is the ability to trust in his judgment. I need to explain this one a bit better.
I am not a mindless robot. I am fiery, I am passionate, I am ruled by strong deep-seated emotions, I am intelligent, I have ideas, thoughts, concerns, issues, fantasies, wants and needs. It is instinctual when someone demands an action for me to question. sometimes there will be quite strong fears or concerns regarding this. Being kajira does not mean that I give my Master blind obedience; being kajira means that there is a time and a place for everything. That I must trust my Master to allow me to express those fears and concerns, that I must trust him to help me work through them so they are no longer barriers. That I must trust my Master to be acting in both his and my best interests. and that at the end of it all, regardless of how strongly opposed my own feelings may or may not be, I have the strength to say the words which are the right of every kajirae. “Yes Master”.
Another key strength for me is being able to let go, lose myself as I fall down this rabbit hole in the knowledge that my Master will always be there when I fail, and I will fail for I am human but he will be there allowing me to pick myself up, evaluate what went wrong and continue the journey, knowing that as I lose myself, I also find myself.
Two final points to make, I know I have rambled on here quite a bit and I have repeated myself a lot… I am not going to edit it though as I feel it will detract from showing my Master my thought process.
- I have an ever growing, innate need to be pleasing to my Master. I cannot switch that off. It eats inside me, demanding to be fed and to feed it means giving everything I am over to the hands of another; becoming bound to them in a way that there is no retreat, no escape route, no leniency. This is a very frightening concept and process, but just because it is ’scary’ does not mean I will back away from it. I always have enjoyed a good fight and I know within myself I have that strength to move through those fears and become everything I can be and more.
- “If you resent being polished how can you become a mirror”. Within the need to be pleasing to my Master, there is a further desire to be a reflection of him, his ideals, his standards, his integrity, honesty, confidence, strength of character, dedication and commitment. I desire for my Master to see within me what I see in him. He makes me so happy and content and complete. I want to give him everything he desires and more besides. I have to. I have to in order to be true to myself.
Done. Finito!
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wonderfully written….although forgive me but i still do not really see the difference between a kajira and a slave…..i know of the fantasy online gor and have participated in it ….it is where i learned the true me inside….although i do not claim to be kajira i am slave in real life within the BDSM lifestyle….however a lil lost right now as an unowned slave but slave all the same….all the traits you describe are not only traits of a gorean slave they are of slaves who submit 24/7 who are in M/s relationships and live D/s or TPE….i have been that girl you describe to my Master in the past ….pehraps it is a misconception that BDSM is only about a scene for many in the lifestyle live D/s 24/7.
but i thank you for this series for it does make me think….pehraps i am kajira in disguise or in heart and truely just do not know the difference.
Maybe there is no real difference?
Maybe that is the conundrum within the lifestyle that faces us all.
I cannot answer your question as I have never lived anything within the bdsm genre outside of the gorean lifestyle. What I do know is that it has very strong elements of IE.
1. As kajira I trust my Master beyond the nth degree. Yes, it is a difficult and potentially dangerous thing to do, but I know within my heart and after many, many lengthy conversations with my Master he would always do what is right by both of us – not just what is right by Him or what He wants.
2. To pick up on something you said.. I am not unowned, I am owned by one Man, my Master. I am his alone to do with as he wishes and if that was to involve play with others then so be it. However, it is not my decision to make. I consiously and in full knowledge gave up my will to him. Yes, I still have a mind and I still have an opinion, but at the end of the day, HE commands me, 24/7, in all things. If that doesn’t match with what I think, it becomes something that needs discussion, but it does not change his command or my obediance.
I have never been on online fantasy Gor. It does not interest me I’m afraid as it is just that – fantasy. Although I know it is a lifeline to many exploring themselves in a safe environment and fully respect and understand that.
dina´s last blog ..An Early Post revisited – Jealousy
Thank You dina….i have enjoyed your atricles….and perhaps i have found some answers….that i identify with all that you say and describe….as for not beingn owned….i mean at this moment i do not have a Master….some say how can you be slave and not have a Master….i say because i still have the same feelings inside wishing to find that one to please and serve…..i still have the knowledge of my previous M/s relationsihps and still carry those ideals and values and i know that one day i will find my Master that will own me completely …mind, body and soul once again.
i guess i have got caught up in titles ….reading your atricles i see no real differences…at least to me and how i am ….so once again thank you ….
caroleslave,
I thank you for the comments you have sent to dina. And the distinction between slave and kajira, true slaves and kajirae, are probably very few, if any. dina has came a long way in just the months I have owned her. From the start, she has had many barriers and yet now, her hard boundaries are now falling away. I expect that if you truly have a slaveheart, whether you be slave or a kajira, to serve and love completely makes all things possible.
Please keep your head held high in pride as the search for the right Master is a tough one, as it was a long search it was for my dina and I to find one another was. The right Master will know what you are from the start, whether it be realtime or online. Be true always to yourself in all that you are and you may be surprised to find that many a Master will turn his eye towards you. Take pride and be glad in being a slave, for you are one of many that accept and recognize yourself as you truly are inside and out.
Aeros Wraithe (dina’s Master)
Thank You kindly Aeros Wraithe for Your words of encouragement….i have faith that i will once again find my Master…it is a long search indeed but i know in the end it will be worth it.
You have a beautiful girl, as You know….she shines though in her words as she has embraced the kajira that is she….thank You also for allowing her to share her words with us and help us have a better insight.
humbly,
caroleslave