Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide's goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I've put together a list of the posts here to help you on your journey.
- Why BDSM is NOT D/s - skylarpet shares her thoughts on the differences between BDSM and the relationship type D/s.
- Safe Sane and Consensual - Learn what your responsibilities are when it comes to playing.
- RACK - SSC not your idea of a good way to play? Try Risk Aware Consensual Kink.
- The BDSM Checklist that will Really Help You - Checklists offered online are extensive, overwhelming and increasingly not useful. Learn how to write one that will work with your development.
- Using Playtime Check-Ins Wisely - Communicating effectively during play is vital to a comfortable and pleasurable playtime.
- To Safeword or Not to Safeword - The use of safewords in BDSM and deciding if they are important to you.
- Nonverbal Ways to Safeword - How do you express discomfort or the need to stop when you are gagged or hooded? Come read about some nonverbal options.
- Packing a Toybag - Dominants are not the only ones who should come prepared. See what you should have with you when you play.
- Sub Space - What is it? Do I want it? How much does it cost?
- Emotional Aspects of Sub Drop - The crash when play is over can be physical and emotional. Take a look at the emotional side; which can be the hardest to deal with.
- Sub Frenzy - What is it and can you get it? Is it contagious? Find out how you can cool the fever!
- Aftercare for Yourself - Putting together a kit to help you heal after playing is important in casual and live-in relationships.
This isn't all there is to BDSM play, trust me. But it's a start. Now open for questions!
