Recommended Reading for New Submissives
May 26, 2009 by lunaKM [1,281 views]
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The following is a list of books that I recommend for every novice submissive. The links lead you to Amazon if you are interested in buying the books. Part of your purchase goes towards supporting this site and my efforts at continuing to bring you content on this site.
Books
Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/m Lovemaking
by Race Bannon. This brief volume explains how partners can explore their dominant and submissive S/M fantasies in a safe and fun manner. Negative myths are dispelled and replaced with the truth about the kind of S/M erotic play that so many adults enjoy. You’ll learn what S/M is, how to do it safely, and much, much more.
Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission
by William Brahme and Gloria Brahme. A breakthrough in sexual literature, this work is a complete, comprehensive user-friendly guide to and tour through the world of alternative sexual lifestyles. While the topics are exotic and erotic, the authors handle each one in a sensitive, thorough, analytical, and fascinating way and manage to explain a secret world to those who might wish to visit.
Sensuous Magic 2 Ed: A Guide to S/M for Adventurous Couples
by Patrick Califia. Mixing erotic vignettes with practical how-to advice and personal insight, Sensuous Magic is the author’s guide to sadomasochism for couples. For readers who harbor fantasies of erotic dominance and submission, Sensuous Magic demystifies S/M, explaining terminology and technique. Experienced players will appreciate the author’s knowledge of S/M safety and his insight into S/M psychology. Novices will be reassured by the book’s honest, frank approach. This new edition discusses myths about S/M, the psychology of bondage, communication and negotiation, techniques of pleasure and sensation (including tickling, pressure, temperature, impact play, and whipping), and sex in S/M scenes. Also included are a glossary, updated bibliography, and resource guide.
Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism
by Philip Miller and Molly Devon. Screw the Roses enthusiastically covers all the basics and even some of the not-so-basics–bondage, negotiation, sex, endorphins, dominance and submission, toys, safety, S/M community, and beyond. It’s written primarily from the point of view of male dominant/female submissive interactions, but it’s easily translatable into valuable advice for any relationship configuration. Miller and Devon’s explanations of not just the how, but also the why, of sadomasochism are honest, sexy, funny–and a must-have for anyone who wants to learn about sadism, masochism, dominance, submission, or bondage.
The Compleat Slave: Creating And Living An Erotic Dominant/submissive Lifestyle
by Jack Rinella. In this highly anticipated followup to The Master’s Manual, author jack Rinella continues his in-depth exploration and discussion of Dominant/submissive relationships with his latest book, The Compleat Slave. This informative overview of the leather scene features Rinella’s guidelines, tips, and personal experiences in creating safe and sane Master/slave relationships. Whether you are a novice or an experienced Master or slave, this insightful and forthright volume will prove to be a great read and a valuable reference guide.
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These books are good not only for the novice, but for those having any level of experience. I always felt something was missing from my life; and after going through 20 years of marriage and then divorcing, I began reading and exploring and researching every thing i could get my hands, all in attempt to identify what lurked just under the surface of the burning needs and desires.
That was 6 years ago when I first bought my first “bdsm” book, “Screw the Roses…”,and wow! did it ever open my eyes to what i felt lay dormant inside. Just reading and learning that I wasn’t alone in wanting to be a part of something that sated the darker side of erotic desires.
(And I must say, these have been the happiest years of my “new” life. I am a humbled slave half of a real M/s couple.)
Sorry, I tend to ramble, and to get back on track, I highly recommend the above books.