If you intend to venture into play on a casual level or at play parties and clubs as a single submissive you need to arrive prepared for play. This includes having some of your own toys so that you don’t rely on Dominants being gracious enough to use their toys on you. It is not unusual for a submissive to bring her own toy bag to a party or gathering. You will not be looked upon poorly, but rather very well prepared for a fun time.
Safety Items
A key reason you need some of your own toys is health safety. Using other people’s toys leaves you open to disease and illnesses, other people’s body oils and fluids and anything else they may be carrying. Toys like leather and cloth are porous and will absorb these things easily. Some, like leather, aren’t easily disinfected and cleaned. Being prepared will keep you safe.
- A basic first aid kit
- Tylenol and aspirin
- Your medications
- Hard candy or other quick dissolving sugar item for non-diabetic hypoglycemia
- Condoms
- Lube
- Latex gloves (or non-latex if you have an allergy)
- Disposable Underpads (Chux)
or towels
- Baby wipes
Personal Play Items
Another set of items you should have in your play bag are personal play items. These are also called insertables. Dildos, vibrators, anal toys and other sexual items should be used on you only. Bring the ones that you prefer to have used on you and do not allow others to use ones they brought with them. This may seem like common sense, but if insertable play is allowed where you are playing, some tend to offer up whatever is available. Politely decline.
- Dildos
- Vibrators
- Butt plugs
- Anal beads
- Clit massagers
- Hitachi wands
- Lube
- Ben wa balls
- Rope for bondage around the genitals
Percussion Toys
This category is anything that you want used on you. This could be floggers, paddles, slappers, whips, canes. If you come with a small number of these items then another Dominant isn’t going to feel obligated to use his. This is actually to protect the Dominant’s items. If you bleed or sweet heavily or any other fluid gets all over the Dominant’s treasured flogger, he really has no choice but to give it to you. Cleaning leather is next to impossible. Fluid bonded toys should only be used on the person for which the fluids belong. Master has a set of fluid bonded floggers that while others oggle over them they can not use them. We have given over several floggers in this way (Master tends to pop zits and open scratches and continues). This is something we are aware of and prepared for, but if you come with your own toys they will more than likely play with you with them.
- Floggers
- Whips
- Canes
- Slappers
- Paddles
- Crops
Unique Toys
Lastly are any items that are likely to be uncommon or that you have that are special. This could be a hand painted cupping set or perhaps a set of needles with ribbons attached. Anything that you may be one of only a few to own it, bring it with you.
- Tens Units
- Violet Wands
- Special needles or blades
- Unique toys like a rose flogger
Anything else I may have missed? What do you have in your toybag?
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I often bring
a robe
my make up kit
my preferred rope
my camera
batteries
mouthwash and or toothbrush
water bottle
hair tie, clip and brush
scissors
extra bus or cab money
These arent just silly things to bring!! My soft fluffy warm robe helps with aftercare and switching my mindset before jumping into my day clothes.
My makeup often gets messed up or even if i leave it off I need to apply so I can get on with my day.
I often end up eating before play partly cause it just ends up that way and partly to be sure i dont get low blood sugar. So toothbrush ec is neccesary.
Water is very important during or after playing!!!
I prefer to wear a hair clip and keep my hair nice but sometimes I play and i must lay flat so a clip wont work I switch to a band but then sometimes partner perfers hair down and it just gets super messy so a brush rocks!!
As for scissors they are very important for saftey. Youd be amazed how many times people at dungeons went to find scissors and came up short!!!
Also important to have an alternative means of transportation. Seems the worst always happens when Im playing. Broke down, left behind, or sub drop sick.