A recent journal prompt I came across really inspired me to write about it. It is spirituality. A lot of what I hear about spirituality is related to religion, but BDSM can be spiritual too and I’d like to explore that with you.
What is the relationship between spirituality and religion? Is BDSM spiritual? –Submissive Journal Prompts
Religion and spirituality have a connection but they don’t have to be connected. When you believe in a structured religion it generally means you have a spirituality about it. But when you are spiritual, that doesn’t mean you are connected to religion. Does that make sense?
BDSM can be spiritual if you feel connected to it in a similar way as you would religion. The whole idea of BDSM is an overpowering idea of all things sexual, sensual and relationship related that involve our entire being, life and identity. This isn’t about being kinky in the bedroom; anyone can do that. This is about living and breathing an alternative lifestyle that embraces BDSM in its core.
When you are serving, do you feel focused on the service and the power that you receive from your partner? Does it give you a floaty feeling or a sense of being that reminds you of inner peace and acceptance of your life? You could be experiencing service as spiritual.
My experiences with spiritual BDSM are limited, but the moments I felt at complete peace with myself I felt transcended into happiness and wholeness that I’ve never experienced any other way than when I was praying as a teen, looking for divine intervention in my sad life. The feeling that what I was doing at the time was just right, almost perfect and exactly what I should be doing gave me a strong sense of my spiritual self.
How To Connect
If you wish to grow closer to your submission and bring a spirituality in your service, you can look no further than your own religious exposure, whether you own or someone’s stories.
- Find a quote, mantra or mediation that means a lot to you and your service. Memorize it and say it often.
- Practice mediation techniques so that you can find your inner peace easier.
- Find a way to worship your owner. This can be by ritual bathing, foot worship, or other body part service. It can also be learning new skills to enhance your service with your owner in mind. Massage is one that I think of.
- Perform your service with focused slow steps. Develop your grace. Do every step with purpose and meaning.
Each of these ideas can help you connect with the spirituality of your service and will provide you with a new way to be intimate with your Dominant.
Spirituality is not required as a part of your service. It is just a way to enhance what you already do. If you are a bedroom submissive, these ideas can be applied to sexual service as well. Imagine a spiritual blow job or a ritual massage as a part of foreplay. Spirituality can be a part of anything you do.
Don’t let the idea of spirituality or religion overwhelm you. Make your part in BDSM whatever you want to make it. If spirituality is what you’d like to try, please embrace some of the ideas here, or share some in the comments. What ideas do you have for bringing out your spirituality in service?
Your Thoughts
darkpaladin on twitter gave me his thoughts on spirituality. Here’s what he had to say.
BDSM is very close to a religion for me – to me it is about lifting people up and showing them their internal energy and power. A dom acts a guide and submissive acts as the vessel of energy. The sacraments are time, trust and orgasms when a sub gives certain power away they awaken to their own inner strength and deification. We are all deities. The dom leads on the sub’s journey and the sub shows the dom in similar ways.
Do you have any thoughts to share?
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Awesome post. One can really make anything they want spiritual, if they put enough of themselves into it. I think D/s is very close to religion and indeed is spiritual for me. This evening i made my first slave rosary and wrote the prayers to go along with it, using the ones you have here on this site as a reference. I think similar things can help both the sub in his/her submission and the Dom in his/her domination.
wow that was a great post i really learned alot thank you.
This was such an excellent post. Thank you for posting it! And this is coming from the D side. I have found many great posts on this site but this one is truly exceptional.
Spirituality can be a large part of BDSM if both partners are into it. What is really interesting is that I am an atheist. But that doesn’t mean I’m not spiritual at times. I play bass guitar and many times I have had a spiritual occurrence while playing my bass. I find the same thing with BDSM. Sometimes I just get in the zone and it all comes so easily. I especially feel spiritual during cool down when we are cuddling and just enjoying being together.
Thanks again for a really great post!
You’re very welcome! I’m glad you have enjoyed it.
A few months ago I was talking with a dominant friend who shares a very similar spiritual path to mine and I mentioned to her that I saw BDSM as a stepping stone to spiritual growth. Many of the ideas and disciplines I see in those living the Lifestyle will cause people to grow spiritually. I see different levels of surrender and service between two practicing in The Power Exchange, the sub is not the only one who surrenders and serves, a subtle distinction.
When the energy is flowing between two, you can touch each others hearts and souls and in that connection you can find where two times three becomes One.
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