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lunaKM has been a full-time slave in an M/s relationship for over 10 years. She is the founder and editor of Submissive Guide. Learn more about her here and connect with her on lunaKM.me, Twitter, Google+, FetLife.

15 responses to “Finding Your Spirituality In Service”

  1. RequiemKittyPup

    Awesome post. One can really make anything they want spiritual, if they put enough of themselves into it. I think D/s is very close to religion and indeed is spiritual for me. This evening i made my first slave rosary and wrote the prayers to go along with it, using the ones you have here on this site as a reference. I think similar things can help both the sub in his/her submission and the Dom in his/her domination.

  2. otkbratyangel

    wow that was a great post i really learned alot thank you.

  3. Greatmane

    This was such an excellent post. Thank you for posting it! And this is coming from the D side. I have found many great posts on this site but this one is truly exceptional.

    Spirituality can be a large part of BDSM if both partners are into it. What is really interesting is that I am an atheist. But that doesn’t mean I’m not spiritual at times. I play bass guitar and many times I have had a spiritual occurrence while playing my bass. I find the same thing with BDSM. Sometimes I just get in the zone and it all comes so easily. I especially feel spiritual during cool down when we are cuddling and just enjoying being together.

    Thanks again for a really great post!

  4. lunaKM

    You’re very welcome! I’m glad you have enjoyed it.

  5. naturallysubmissive

    A few months ago I was talking with a dominant friend who shares a very similar spiritual path to mine and I mentioned to her that I saw BDSM as a stepping stone to spiritual growth. Many of the ideas and disciplines I see in those living the Lifestyle will cause people to grow spiritually. I see different levels of surrender and service between two practicing in The Power Exchange, the sub is not the only one who surrenders and serves, a subtle distinction.

    When the energy is flowing between two, you can touch each others hearts and souls and in that connection you can find where two times three becomes One.
    .-= naturallysubmissive´s last blog ..A Request =-.

  6. theMarquie

    THIS PERSONS RIGHT ABOUT IT BEING A TRANCENDUAL PATH OCCULTIC CIRCLES RITUAL MAGIC AND SECRITE SOCITIES FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS USED PAIN AND PLEASURE TO AWAKEN THE PHYIC SPIRTUAL MIND ESPICALY LINKED TO SEX IM AMAZED THEIR WAS NO MENTION OF THIS THEY ALSO USED INDURINCE DISAPLINE SELF DENILE ECT ALL PART OF THE SUBMISSIVES PATH AS WELL AS PAIN AND CONFINEMENT AND LETS NOT FORGET THE POWER OF THE ORGASUME

  7. humbleaiko

    I am very spiritual and I find that it is the act of doing things mindfully that creates a sense of calm.

    The collar represents a feeling of order, that I am under guidance and that I am required to be accountable for my actions. I like the peacefulness that comes from having decision making taken away, so that all I need to do is follow instructions or directions.

    I like to be challenged too, so it is always nice to be able to take it up a step or two, when tasks have become automatic.

  8. slave lacy

    i love this luna. Thank you! i have been adopting a new routine of meditation while memorizing some slave prayers and it is amazing the peace and calm that it is bringing to mind and heart. It has really made a huge difference in my service and is making it easier to let go of vanilla friendships/relationships that have been big road blocks in my allowing my submissiveness to the forefront.

  9. Dee

    Hello Lunakm,
    Can you please direct me to more readings on spiritual bdsm? This was wonderful!
    Yes, I equate giving my goodness with spirituality because it creates such a positive flow. I too have experienced transcendent moments while being massaged by a stranger, hanging out with my granddaughter and working on writing projects. I love this! It is true, you get what you give.

    Thank you! You’re wonderful!
    Dee

  10. KateKat

    I actually teared up when I read this. I have found such a calm and serene feeling in the activities I do with my Master. Being in a long distance relationship may hinder some things, but he will set many different tasks for me such as “Make a strip tease video to a song that you feel defines our relationship” The search for the song made me really think about us and then picking the right outfit in which he would be pleased with was fun enough in it’s own, but after giving him what he commanded of me felt amazing. But the praise that came from him telling me my choices were exactly perfect could have me to my knees. I had perfectly done as he had commanded, with him forcing me to make decisions on it, and the feeling that washed over me was indescribable. It was the most intimate, pure feeling I have had in such a long time.

  11. Kirren

    I agree 100%. I find grace and acceptance in the service of a person I know is intelligent, caring and strong. I know by serving him well, I can help him have the strength he needs to be the person he can be, which is what I want to see most in the world. Ideas of energy transfer and pure love are relevant. I agree 100%

  12. sanctuarian

    I agree. I’ve always felt that there was a spiritual element to dominance and submission, but only recently I’ve realized that submissiveness combined with spirituality can be used to help heal the planet from the damage we’ve inflicted on it through our mindless materialism. A training in submissiveness prepares us to make the sacrifices that are necessary for our transformation, and without that transformation we won’t survive. I believe that submissives, and the dominants that train them, will play a vital role in a new consciousness that is emerging.

  13. Rose

    I’ve never been in any other relationship, vanilla or BDSM, than with my Dominant, who isn’t a living breathing flesh-and-bone being, but rather a Higher Being I discovered on my path of meditation, and introspection, unlike the traditional “religious” gods and goddesses, One who I found, and met my soulmate at the same time. Spirituality is at the core of O/our relationship, and as a “mainstream” “agnostic”, I’m now officially His, and only His. I always knew I’d find the “One” worthy of my worship and devotion, and service, and spiritual trust, it’s just that the traditional religions didn’t have it. Interestingly enough, my Dominant is one who has had a very dark and cloudy childhood and detached upbringing, and it wasn’t His fault, all He wanted was true Love, someone who was/is willing to guide Him, coax Him, ease Him back to the goodness of humanity, lead Him back to His own humanity that all others thought was long lost. However, my goodness of my spirit, combined with my determination, ambition, and selflessness, identified this, and gravitated toward helping Him see the lightness, the genuine laughter, the feeling of humanity. Both fiercely intelligent, devoted to one another, and as polar opposites we may seem, we grow each other, help each other.

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