Comments on: The Differences Between Bottom, Masochist, Submissive and Slave http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/ novice mentoring, self help and submissive exploration Thu, 18 Mar 2010 02:55:31 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rebekahhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1946 Rebekah Tue, 16 Feb 2010 13:38:01 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1946 luna,I agree that sometimes people that 'become' slave were always slave-minded. At least it is true for me. Let me just give a little history by way of explaining. When I petitioned my Master in the beginning we took on a total power transfer, I relinquished all rights (through my own agency, understanding the laws of the land, as they are, and choosing not to exercise the freedom I was born into) and my only limits were those provided by him. Our relationship was steady and strong through many years and then began to go through a rocky patch. Outside situations and dramatic life changes drew us away from behaving as we always had, and while I still felt an extreme desire to serve him it was not always happening. These were extreme circumstances.I am happy to say we have now come full circle and through personal trials have perservered! Because of this, what we do now, feels like starting over in a way. I am not ready to surrender on the deep level that we left things at where I had been conditioned and trained and nurtured to do so. But, I know that is in me and that no matter where we have been I have always been a slave (as I know it!) at heart. I find myself yearing to give up any limits, but it is the fear that holds me right now. Each day I move closer to the slave I once was, because I believe that I cannot lose something that is inherently part of me. He is patient and takes me along slowly, but I am already there in my heart and soul. I simply have to catch up on a physical and intellectual level! luna,

I agree that sometimes people that ‘become’ slave were always slave-minded. At least it is true for me. Let me just give a little history by way of explaining. When I petitioned my Master in the beginning we took on a total power transfer, I relinquished all rights (through my own agency, understanding the laws of the land, as they are, and choosing not to exercise the freedom I was born into) and my only limits were those provided by him. Our relationship was steady and strong through many years and then began to go through a rocky patch. Outside situations and dramatic life changes drew us away from behaving as we always had, and while I still felt an extreme desire to serve him it was not always happening. These were extreme circumstances.

I am happy to say we have now come full circle and through personal trials have perservered! Because of this, what we do now, feels like starting over in a way. I am not ready to surrender on the deep level that we left things at where I had been conditioned and trained and nurtured to do so. But, I know that is in me and that no matter where we have been I have always been a slave (as I know it!) at heart. I find myself yearing to give up any limits, but it is the fear that holds me right now. Each day I move closer to the slave I once was, because I believe that I cannot lose something that is inherently part of me. He is patient and takes me along slowly, but I am already there in my heart and soul. I simply have to catch up on a physical and intellectual level!

]]> By: lunaKMhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1685 lunaKM Fri, 22 Jan 2010 11:28:24 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1685 Here is a link to the recommended reading list that I have here on the site. I'm sure it will help you: http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/05/recommended-reading-submissives/ Here is a link to the recommended reading list that I have here on the site. I’m sure it will help you:
http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/05/recommended-reading-submissives/

]]> By: nessjakeshttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1684 nessjakes Fri, 22 Jan 2010 08:35:43 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1684 thanks so much. so is there any good reading material that you suggest that would help us on this journey. a beginners guide into this lifestyle, or how to understand the feelings and senses that go along with it. i know that it is more than just tying each other up and having our way with each other. and especially for me to help me understand more of the sub that i would like to become. thanks so much. so is there any good reading material that you suggest that would help us on this journey. a beginners guide into this lifestyle, or how to understand the feelings and senses that go along with it. i know that it is more than just tying each other up and having our way with each other. and especially for me to help me understand more of the sub that i would like to become.

]]> By: lunaKMhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1683 lunaKM Fri, 22 Jan 2010 04:47:37 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1683 nessjakes,There is no need to pin a title on yourself at all at this point. Give yourself some time to explore and learn and when you feel comfortable with calling yourself one thing or another then that is the time to do so. nessjakes,

There is no need to pin a title on yourself at all at this point. Give yourself some time to explore and learn and when you feel comfortable with calling yourself one thing or another then that is the time to do so.

]]> By: nessjakeshttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1682 nessjakes Thu, 21 Jan 2010 21:12:47 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1682 well lets see, i have beeen curious about the sub and dom life for some time. i know i get exited when i see a pic of a woman tied up and bound. and it turns me on to think that i would love to have someone take advantege of me and force sex on me in that situation. I am in a comitted relationship and told my partner the interest i have in it all. i am begining this part or at least would like to start experiencing this, i know i would enjoy being tied up and forced to have sex and spankings. i like for my guy to take total control and to do it the way he wants to and positions he wants to. i like to be choked and spanked.please help me define were i stand and my "title" as of now. and also how do i go about getting him to take more of a dominant role in this experience. i know he is willing, but we are unsure of were and how to start this new phase of our relationship. any comments would be greatly appreciated. thanks so much well lets see, i have beeen curious about the sub and dom life for some time. i know i get exited when i see a pic of a woman tied up and bound. and it turns me on to think that i would love to have someone take advantege of me and force sex on me in that situation. I am in a comitted relationship and told my partner the interest i have in it all. i am begining this part or at least would like to start experiencing this, i know i would enjoy being tied up and forced to have sex and spankings. i like for my guy to take total control and to do it the way he wants to and positions he wants to. i like to be choked and spanked.please help me define were i stand and my “title” as of now. and also how do i go about getting him to take more of a dominant role in this experience. i know he is willing, but we are unsure of were and how to start this new phase of our relationship. any comments would be greatly appreciated. thanks so much

]]> By: lunaKMhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1575 lunaKM Tue, 05 Jan 2010 00:28:47 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1575 Emily,If you want to do this for him, which it sounds like you do, you can learn to hit him. Whether or not you enjoy it, that's the 'into it' factor. There are plenty of essays online (google) that will help you learn how to spank, and verbally humiliate him, negotiate more extensive playtime and get what you both want to be happy. Best of luck! Emily,

If you want to do this for him, which it sounds like you do, you can learn to hit him. Whether or not you enjoy it, that’s the ‘into it’ factor. There are plenty of essays online (google) that will help you learn how to spank, and verbally humiliate him, negotiate more extensive playtime and get what you both want to be happy. Best of luck!

]]> By: Emilyhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1574 Emily Mon, 04 Jan 2010 23:54:40 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1574 Hi, My boyfriend has recently explained to me that he wants me to hit him and humiliate him in bed. After research and common sense I presume he is a masochist. He tells me he wants to be my slave, however he is dislikes foreplay, so I don't have the choice of giving him sexual orders, he has just asked me to hit him and call him names.I was wondering if you have any tips or any references you might recommend?He told me he knows he can't be happy without it, and obviously I want to do this for him, but he seems to think you have to be "into it" anyway, and you should just 'know' what you're doing, so as you can see, it's hard for him to talk about.Any help would be most appreciated, even if it's just proving him wrong, because I know I can do it.Thanks! Hi, My boyfriend has recently explained to me that he wants me to hit him and humiliate him in bed. After research and common sense I presume he is a masochist. He tells me he wants to be my slave, however he is dislikes foreplay, so I don’t have the choice of giving him sexual orders, he has just asked me to hit him and call him names.

I was wondering if you have any tips or any references you might recommend?

He told me he knows he can’t be happy without it, and obviously I want to do this for him, but he seems to think you have to be “into it” anyway, and you should just ‘know’ what you’re doing, so as you can see, it’s hard for him to talk about.

Any help would be most appreciated, even if it’s just proving him wrong, because I know I can do it.

Thanks!

]]> By: Greatmanehttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1505 Greatmane Tue, 22 Dec 2009 11:34:27 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1505 Thank you michelle for pointing out that a bottom (or masochist) does not have to be a submissive. I am a masochistic Dominant and I do bottom from time to time. I am in no way, shape, or form submissive. I have no desire or need to serve and I do not get a charge out of it the way I do out of dominating. But I do enjoy a good beating every now and then. I can usually find a Mistress to play with or a service top to top me when I get the urge to bottom. But it is strictly limited to the time I am on the cross or bench (for instance).When I first got into BDSM it took me awhile to figure out just what I was. But after some deep introspection along with a period of time I eventually came to the conclusion that I am a dominant with a masochistic streak and not a switch or submissive in any way. I just like to be beat every once in awhile. And I understand that I am no where near the only one, smiles. I've been in the lifestyle for 14 years now so I am very secure in my station and what I am about.Thank you luna for another perceptive article! Thank you michelle for pointing out that a bottom (or masochist) does not have to be a submissive. I am a masochistic Dominant and I do bottom from time to time. I am in no way, shape, or form submissive. I have no desire or need to serve and I do not get a charge out of it the way I do out of dominating. But I do enjoy a good beating every now and then. I can usually find a Mistress to play with or a service top to top me when I get the urge to bottom. But it is strictly limited to the time I am on the cross or bench (for instance).

When I first got into BDSM it took me awhile to figure out just what I was. But after some deep introspection along with a period of time I eventually came to the conclusion that I am a dominant with a masochistic streak and not a switch or submissive in any way. I just like to be beat every once in awhile. And I understand that I am no where near the only one, smiles. I’ve been in the lifestyle for 14 years now so I am very secure in my station and what I am about.

Thank you luna for another perceptive article!

]]> By: slave westfalenhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1347 slave westfalen Tue, 24 Nov 2009 23:46:59 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1347 liked the point that a sub who becomes slave was always such and is just reidentifying as such after time.slave westfalen liked the point that a sub who becomes slave was always such and is just reidentifying as such after time.

slave westfalen

]]> By: lunaKMhttp://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/01/the-differences-between-bottom-masochist-submissive-and-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-1232 lunaKM Mon, 16 Nov 2009 22:20:54 +0000 http://www.submissiveguide.com/?p=319#comment-1232 You really shouldn't judge people by their usernames. I personally know many submissives that are bratty and their Dominants love it up. Every person is different and even though you have interacted with Dominants that wouldn't find it attractive does not mean there aren't ANY Dominants that would enjoy it. So, please keep gross generalizations out of your opinion. Thank you. You really shouldn’t judge people by their usernames. I personally know many submissives that are bratty and their Dominants love it up. Every person is different and even though you have interacted with Dominants that wouldn’t find it attractive does not mean there aren’t ANY Dominants that would enjoy it. So, please keep gross generalizations out of your opinion. Thank you.

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