Begging is an art form for submissives. Each of us has our own talent or lack thereof in this area. For some it is part of humiliation, or just every day activities. There are different approaches to begging.
Verbal Approach
Master insists that I beg for a lot of things and I think that most Dominants choose this route to see just how desperate their submissive is for whatever it is they want. Generally it’s about being allowed to come or when you have been teased to death and you just want sex, right, now!
I used to be horrible at begging. “Pretty please with a cherry on top?” Then if that didn’t work I’d up the anty. “Whipped cream?” “Chocolate Sauce?” Uh-huh, what was I doing, tempting him with dessert? This never worked.
Then I went to the “potty dance routine” of “please, please, please, please….” So many pleases in there that it just didn’t have the sentiment that he wanted out of me so that didn’t work either.
Now I’m catching on. I’m no where near perfect but I can and generally do get what I’ve begged for after a short stint of him grinning at me and telling me that wasn’t good enough. He wants me to go all out and yes, I give it to him.
Say I want to come and I know he’s going to ask me to beg. It may go something like this:
“Master, please may I come? I’m so hot and my clit feels like it’s going to explode!”
He usually declines the first time so then it gets more desperate.
“Master, oh god Master I’d really love to come for you and show you just how slutty I am. Please let me come.”
If he’s just in the mood to listen to me beg he’ll give me that grin that says, “Almost, but not quite.” Then the big guns come out.
“Master, I need to come so bad for you, if you let me come I’ll scream and moan so loud, god Master, I don’t want to hold it anymore please? I’ll suck your dick like a mad-woman if I can”
Yup, bribery. I opt for giving him things that I don’t normally do voluntarily. That’s just the way it works for me. I have to really show him how desperate he’s made me, tell him the orgasm is really his and not what I need and then top it off with something that he’s going to love.
Physical Approach
Kneeling and kissing the feet of your dominant is not only a sign of submission, but is a good start for begging for what you desire. This humbling of yourself goes a long way to finding that sweet spot in a Dominant so that they may pay mercy on your and allow what you are asking for. Other ideas can be prostration, kissing hands or bowing/curtsying.
Nonverbal Approach
The puppy dog eyes come out when nonverbal may work for you. The right look can transmit what you want or need very well and some Dominants prefer to have you look like you want it while listening to you beg. What look do you get on your face when you need to get permission for something?
A mixture of any of these approaches requires practice. I’m still not perfect but I’m learning what my Master requires of me when I’m asked to beg for ‘it’.
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Other people’s thoughts on begging:
- Begging Advice on Bondage.com (Bondage.com account required)
- Begging In BDSM by Raven Shadowborne
- Begging Techniques, gorean by arani_CsA
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My name is lunaKM and I’m a full-time submissive in a D/s relationship. I am webslut to 
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Great post! Begging is something I really don’t think I’d be very good at (too proud, I think.) Though I’ll probably have to learn how at some point.
Thanks, I took care of the first link and noted the log in requirement for the second.
Yes begging isnt one of my strong points either. Great post it made me think alot about it now i am goin to blog about how it makes me feel to beg.
When you do write the post, I’d love to have you come back and provide a link to your post!
hello! just found this site,great place and great post! very helpful thank you luna. :)
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I have begged for a few thing in vanilla sex and I have heard of begging in BDSM but I did not understand it, until recently. I had to begg to be hit. It was the hottes thing I had ever done. I will be learning to beg better.
I’m sure you will make short work to learning the best way to beg in a BDSM context Delores. I have faith in you!
TY for this article. Really helpful ideas.
i would never say begging is one of my strong points, though i am having to adapt and change my techniques as the puppy dog eyes and lip quivering no longer work. neither does the endless pleases. i have found that the more desperate i sound, the more on edge my voice is, the more times She has told me no (and this happens a lot), the more it seems to work. i am not so great at saying please so i must admit that whispering “please Mistress, please let Your girl cum (saying Your girl/guy works well)” seems to have a profound effect.